CREATING a beautiful life in spite of human struggles is not easy. Some would even ask -- how do you attain a happy life when life itself is a struggle? Some also believe that when you are poor or oppressed, you have no chances of becoming truly joyful. Oh, that is a very sad thing because it is not only your bank account with millions that can lead you to heaven of gladness.
Allow me to share you some strategies that I believe can make you happy. These are not new but this would help all who have forgotten that happiness can be ultimately achieved through acts of love that prioritizes the happiness of others instead of their own.
Do not boast. It is not good to introduce yourself by talking about your properties, jewels' and bank accounts nor is it proper to discuss your worldwide trips when you are not asked. Your financial qualifications would not help you build true and lasting relationships. You will usually hear them utter "Magkano ba iyan? Kaya ko bilihin iyan."
Do not expect for a return. If you help and make sure you are equally compensated with acts or extra services benefiting you, then you are not truly generous. Anyone who extends help but assesses first his or her sure advantage is not a friend at all but is like a business partner who is preoccupied with the gained interest out of the help. Beware of them -- because they seem to have good hearts but in reality, they always think "May makukuha ba ako diyan?"
Do not accuse. To judge people on issues supported by your own fallacies is an injustice. It is important to engage in listening and find out the validity of stories before you falsely believed a person to have done wrong. And sometimes these people fail to realize that their accusations are actually who they are. You will often hear them say "Ang sama-sama niya, ako, hindi ko talaga kaya gawin iyan."
Do not gossip. Gossiping is so entertaining to most. The talks may be true or not but your purpose is still the same and that is to demean the person. It is funny but when gossiping begins, the gossipers are filled with so much energy that they can last up to eight hours without getting tired. But when they are asked to complete a simple task, they fail to do it even given a longer time. In short, they are the "tsismosas."
Do not look down on the less fortunate. It is heartbreaking when you always put a boundary between you and those who have fewer finances. You treat them like with lepers and you are not fair to your workers because you pay them less. Stop telling the whole world "Hindi talaga ako maiintindihan ng iba, ako lang kasi ang may pera."
Ah... If we try to observe the five acts of love above, we are actually aiming to be happy by allowing others to be happy first. I believe that if people surrounding us are positive because we also try to make them one, then eventually we will become happier leading to a beautiful life in spite of struggles!