YOU and I are in a relationship which I value and want to keep. Yet each of us is a separate person with unique needs and the right to meet those needs.

When you are having problems meeting your needs I will listen with genuine acceptance so as to facilitate your finding your own solutions instead of depending on mine. I also will respect your right to choose your own beliefs and develop your own values; different though may be from mine.

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However, when your behavior interferes with what I must do to get my own needs met, I will tell honestly and openly how your behavior affects me, trusting that you respect my needs and feelings enough to try to change the behavior that is unacceptable to me. Also, whenever some behavior of mine is unacceptable to you, I hope you will tell me openly and honestly so I can change my behavior.

At those times when one of us cannot change to meet the other’s needs, let us acknowledge that we have a conflict and commit ourselves to resolve each such conflict either of us resorting to the use of power to win at the expense of other’s losing. 

I respect your needs, but also respect my own. So let us always strive to search for a solution that will be acceptable to both of us. Your needs will be met, and so will mine -- neither will lose, both will win.

In this way, you can continue to develop as a person through satisfying your needs, and so can I.  Thus, ours can be a healing relationship in which both of us can strive to become what we are capable of being. And continue to relate to each other with mutual respect, love and peace.

Have a peaceful and joyful weekend!