The irony of love

IT’S VALENTINE’S Day today and I am pretty sure that there will be hearts all over the world to celebrate this occasion in their own special ways. Every year, this is one of the “holidays” I look forward to because it’s that one day where I am given everything a girl would dream of: a box of chocolates, a bouquet of flowers coupled with a card filled with flowery words that would definitely sweep me off my feet. If I am lucky, it also comes with a dinner date with matching harana on the side and a goodnight kiss to cap off the night.

I love being in love. I love the idea of love. I love waking up in the morning knowing that someone out there is waiting for me. I have always been a fan of believing in “forever,” and every love story is my favorite story. With these instances, I can’t help of thinking about what love really means to me.

Reality has it that love is not what we see in the movies. Though every one of us would love that what happens on-screen can happen in real life, one can only wish. Love is not what all these love songs tell us. The lyrics of these songs just help us define was love really means.

People say that love hurts, but I say that love does not because if love hurts, it is not love but something else. This something else may be fear of losing someone or a feeling of attachment to what you have gotten used to. It may also be because you are addicted to the idea of love or worse, you have become possessive with something or someone that isn’t really yours to begin with.

Love is an irony in every sense of the word. You learn to let go rather than holding on because loving another is setting them free. Love is one of the most powerful things, it can definitely change lives, but it isn’t something that’s forced. Like what the bible says in Solomon 8:4, and I quote, “…Do not stir up nor awaken love until it pleases.” That is why one does not come looking for it because love comes at the most unexpected time and place. This is when one finds joy in waiting.

I guess when you have experienced loving and being loved in return, you will know your own definition of what love is. Love is dying to yourself and letting go of your personal interests so that the one you love can be happy. It is about being selfless and loving truly because the truer your love is, the lesser you have it confused with something else. Love is one of the greatest things in the world that is why rest assured that, “I’ll never lose that loving feeling...”