Memo for parents-A A +A
Sunny Side Up
Friday, October 4, 2013
IF THERE is one aspect of my life that I find very challenging and fulfilling, it is being a parent.
And how many of us, the moment we entered into a relationship/marriage, can say that we were well-prepared, that we fully knew how to handle the intricacies that go with raising a family?
Most often, we went by trial-and-error.
We were happy when we saw that somehow we were on the right track, that what we did yielded good result.
On the other hand, when something went wayward, we tried our best to correct it, learned from our mistakes and prayed hard for God’s guidance.
Looking back, I could smile that perhaps I have done well as a parent, but deep inside, I know I could have done better or perhaps I could have prevented the ‘mistakes’ I have had.
But that’s immaterial for now.
As I browsed through my personal files, I came across some notes of many years, and for how long I have kept them, I don’t have an idea.
I also don’t remember the source of these notes, as I wish I could acknowledge and thank the author.
Anyway, I wish to share these notes with my children who would one day become parents themselves, and to all would-be parents, young parents, and the other parents who may find these reminders useful:
Every child is gifted—it is the parents’ job to help their children express their talents.
All children are capable of shining when given the opportunity.
Be generous with your child’s needs and conservative with his/her wants. More importantly, know the difference
Love and acceptance are what every child needs and what every parent can afford.
Children need roots and wings.
Give your child the courage to pursue his/her dreams.
Hold your child’s hand now, while you still can
Your children may forget what you say, but they will never forget how you make them feel.
It is rewarding to watch your child imitate your best trait as it is painful to watch him/her imitate your worst.
Parents don’t deserve blame for all their children’s shortcomings, any more than they deserve praises for all their children’s accomplishments.
What a child learns today determines his/her character tomorrow.
Your child will see through you. Give him/her something to look at.
If you want an honest child, be an honest parent.
Your children are always a better measure of your success than your bank account.
The best way to secure your future is to invest time in your children.
The real bonuses in life are given by your children—not by your employer.
No matter how big your children grow, they never outgrow their need for affection.
Hugs are more reassuring than words.
Your daughter may leave home, but she’ll never leave your heart.
No parent is perfect and not all our decisions as parents are right.
We can, however take comfort in knowing that we have done our best, to the best we can.
We thank our parents for what they have done to us, for molding us to who we are now, and for the many lessons they have taught us.
Hopefully, the above memos would guide you, and in time, your own children will thank you, too, for what you have done for them.
Published in the Sun.Star Cagayan de Oro newspaper on October 04, 2013.