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By Nirmla Motoomull

Glimpses

Tuesday, July 8, 2014


BUILDING wealth is about prioritizing or right sequencing. Prioritizing making money first among all of life’s aspects (money, health, relationships and time) isn’t always the best way to start your wealth journey.

In fact, this is probably what is holding you back now. Check your priorities right now and check where you are in your wealth building journey.

If you are still not where you want to be, then it’s time to re-sequence your priorities.

Being wealthy is having a wonderful, abundant life that means simultaneously having an abundant amount of money, good health, solid relationships and time.

When the question “What is most important in your life?” is raised, a common and consistent answer is one’s spouse, parents, children or best friend with whom one has a meaningful relationship.

Material things, dreams and aspirations follow next in priority because the basic truth is we are by nature incomplete and only find fulfillment and completeness in relationship.

But unless we understand, learn and know how to be intimate with others, we lose life’s fervor and meaning.

Foremost, it is essential that we are at peace and at home within ourselves to be able to arrive at true intimate relationship.

Periodically, to be guided accordingly, we honestly ask ourselves “Am I comfortable that I am now more of a creative/subjective/spontaneous (right brain) person than a logical/analytical/systematic (left brain) person or vice versa in a civil way?

Please get in touch with your present image of yourself, your sense of identity and your values.

Explore the different labels which you and others have placed upon yourself influencing your decisions and actions.

By redefining yourself, you open the possibility towards greater growth and happiness.

Where is your life’s movement leading you now?

What seems to keep you from moving forward and growing fully as a person?
You assess your stresses in life and guard against its adverse effect on your physical, emotional and mental well-being.

Working these out can make you free to move on. You may feel the urgency for full living and identify what you envision more for your life.

Charting and putting your life in perspective will serve as a roadmap from which you can identify where you are, where you want to be and how you can effectively move from where you are to where you want to be.
Be psychologically honest.

This means that you must have the ability to face the truth about yourself, may it be positive or negative, to be aware of your strengths and weaknesses.

Unless we confront ourselves as we are, we cannot grow. Self-defense, self-deception and self-rejection only lead to self-withdrawal.

Self-awareness, self-confrontation and self-acceptance lead to more self-investment.

Take moderate amount of risks.

You may discover that there is an area in your life that you are not comfortable engaging in.

It goes contrary to your natural way of doing things. If, however, you feel that beyond discomfort you would benefit from such undertaking then the risk of doing it may be worth it.

No change can take place without some amount of risk.

Once you have found the beauty of your personhood, you begin to naturally appreciate and care for the personhood of others.

And this is not just to those whom you are close with, but to others in general, even with the garbage collector in your neighborhood.

As my concrete example: I am now comfortable with myself every time I correct somebody who is acting foolishly.

And if it is necessary, I report him/her to legal authorities to help me maintain peace and order especially in our neighborhood.

Thereon, I’m at peace and at home within myself because I contribute in a useful way. I’m a concerned citizen.

Everyday, we praise the Lord who carries our burdens day after day; He is the God who saves us (Psalm 68.19) before our morning/evening prayer for help.

[E-mail: dr.nirmla_motoomull@yahoo.com]

Published in the Sun.Star Cagayan de Oro newspaper on July 09, 2014.

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