Moises and Mendez-Palmares: The End or To Be Continued?-A A +A
Saturday, July 14, 2012
Michelle: Sometimes it’s better to put a stop to things that aren’t going the way we want them to, like a collaborative work of people who no longer get along, a relationship that’s going nowhere, a dead-end job, or a losing business. “Never give up” is a good motto. But let go and let God is at times a better choice.
DJ: I always think that every challenge is an opportunity for a relationship to grow. It’s not about having a perfectly smooth relationship. It’s largely about how two people team up when things go rough. It’s just that our society has conditioned us for things quick and convenient. We heat food in seconds. We stay in touch anytime, anywhere. We have few opportunities to develop character that comes with waiting. Any good relationship needs work. Take a pause and examine why you’re holding on to a person. If it’s generally encouraging and uplifting, if you’re growing for the better without being turned into someone you’re not, then go! Do everything you can to make it work.
M: Pasta has to be cooked a certain period of time to be al dente. Grapevines undergo pruning over time to ensure a rich harvest. So it is with life. Everything changes and some good things must come to an end, even if we don’t want them to. There are things that just aren’t meant to be. When we force something that’s not meant to be, it can bring a lot of pain and misery.
DJ: There’s a prayer that I remember every so often. It’s about praying for courage for the things we can change, for the serenity to accept the things we cannot change, and the wisdom to know the difference. It’s been said that life is a fine mingling of letting go and holding on. Both are expressions of love. The real question then is not really how but when and why. It’s wiser to lose someone because you’re you than to keep him or her by being someone you’re not. We also can’t force a person to love us. There is no use in begging for a person to stay when he or she already wants to leave. Love is also about freedom. We all are special. And we all deserve to be treated as such.
M: How very profound you are, DJ! But you know during times when I think of giving up or want to give up, I remember my decision to keep on keeping on. It’s hard but that is what commitment is all about. If we see things through the hard times, we will enjoy the fruits of our labor and savor the victory of overcoming the odds. I’m near the end of the road for this one thing I’m thinking of letting go of. I might or might not let it go. Though I see a different path ahead, I am going to continue walking down the road. Who knows what the end of this journey might bring?
DJ: Life is like driving. We have choices of which ways and exits to take to get us to our destination. At times we take the wrong turn, get caught in a traffic jam or even head toward the wrong direction! Every road is uniquely interesting if we choose to make the most of the trip. It may be an exhilarating experience. At times, it comes in a form of a lesson. This applies to our relationships too. Every relationship is worthwhile when we have that fine balance of attachment and detachment. Yes, love is not a feeling but a decision. And sometimes, we have to let go of what we feel for us to get what we rightfully deserve.
Published in the Sun.Star Cebu newspaper on July 15, 2012.