Singlestalk: Select

M: Choosing well is not as easy as it sounds. With so many choices and sometimes with little time to make the choice, there is the possibility of choosing what is easy or convenient, only to discover that it’s the wrong choice.

At one time or another, we have all experienced the turmoil of not knowing, accepting and loving ourselves or valuing our worth.

Doubts, insecurities and lack of self-esteem prevent us from thinking that we could become better persons. But sometimes, it’s the other way around. We know ourselves well enough, but we have difficulty making a choice about a certain person or situation.

Oftentimes our biases or preferences overrule common sense or good judgment.

DJ: This dilemma is common to those who throw the dice early on. These are people who worked hard too young and achieved a whole lot too soon.

It is important to stop for even just a moment to organize the madness of modern life and hopefully soothe an overload of information. Otherwise, it would be like running so fast and forgetting too soon where a person is going.

M: To be in a crossroads about something is a dilemma we all face. For example, it’s election time once again. We are faced with politicians trying to impress, convince or even oblige us to vote for them.

God gave us our intellect to make a wise choice but it doesn’t help that there are people who do not or cannot accept the choices that we make.

Some people who are supposed to be intelligent make poor choices. For example, choosing someone who is likeable or popular over someone who is more competent, thus more deserving to win. In other aspects like work, business or even love life, you’d be amazed that there are people who cannot decide without consulting everyone, including the stars!

DJ: Perhaps the toughest challenge people our age face is the search for identity, away from longtime peers and the social network built on one’s ability to deliver the goods.

It’s tough to tread a tense wire of opposites pulling at each other. We’re neither young nor old. We’re not exactly dependent but we’re not totally independent. We’re neither this nor that or worse, we’d even sometimes wonder if we’re anything at all. In that sense, it’s no wonder our generation is sometimes tagged as restless. Nothing is settled as of yet.

M: It is said that an informed mind makes a better judgment. Let’s scrutinize our choices and consider our options well be it in our work or personal life and especially for this coming elections. As Deepak Chopra said: “When you make a choice, you change the future.”

DJ: Then again, the comfort of uncertainty is sometimes the best part of the whole experience. The most valuable things in life are not always found in the most obvious places. Restlessness lies at the heart of the adventure, in the sheer sensation of being in transition. We don’t always have the answers but we can have fun trying to figure things out.

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