Sira-sira store: Kindness year-A A +A
By Ober Khok
Friday, January 3, 2014
Kindness is a language, which the deaf can hear and the blind can see.
– Mark Twain
HOW was your New Year’s celebration? Have you made the usual list of things to do in the new year?
You can have resolutions that really work. For instance, before you can resolve, you have to restore. Look at the broken bridges in your life and begin to pile the wood or brick that you need to close the gap between you and that someone you have hurt or perhaps have neglected for years.
This year, you can also promise yourself to forget the things of the past because you can’t live in that address anymore. You have to live in the present. As the great apostle Paul once said, he kept pressing forward to win the prize. So press forward, stretch yourself in that endeavor to heal your past.
Another resolution you can make is to only promise one day at a time at loving, giving, submitting and praying. This is why God gave us 24 hours a day. We have to live in small bites. To look at the future would swamp you far worse than the storm surge caused by typhoon Yolanda. You can do that, can’t you?
Oh, worry less this year. To do this, promise yourself that the moment your forehead gets knitted, you will get up and sing a song. That’s right. Sing and your spirit will be lifted.
Be kind to yourself this year. American author and humorist Mark Twain had it so right when he said that kindness is something all people can see—even the blind and the deaf can feel it.
When you behave kindly, you show concern for others. Every pleasant act will not only benefit the one receiving the generosity but also the giver. Research has shown that a kind act triggers feelings of happiness, contentment and relaxation.
Aristotle noted that kindness is “helpfulness towards some one in need, not in return for anything, nor for the advantage of the helper himself, but for that of the person helped.” It is altruistic and its only reward is the joy of connecting with someone in a positive way.
For philosopher Friedrich Nietzsche kindness and love are the “most curative herbs and agents in human intercourse.” To heal your broken heart, be kind to the one who broke it. Forgive and move on.
To mend your bruised ego, be kind to the person who stepped on it and decide to let your of your grudge. You will discover that you have truly applied the herbal salve of kindness and in so doing, you are a better person.
Published in the Sun.Star Cebu newspaper on January 04, 2014.