Luab: We live according to our choices-A A +A
Saturday, February 8, 2014
LAST Feb. 1, I found myself in a cemetery in Minglanilla as we had the blessing over Cecilio "Celio” Obejero’s grave. It was his birthday. We had to wait a while before Msgr. Diotay arrived. The few of us who arrived early prayed the rosary. When the prayers were over, we reminisced over the simple life Celio chose. After living in the States for a length of time, he opted to spend the remaining years of his life in Cebu at their rest house by the beach in Tuyan.
He lived very simply, helping others in the best way he could, all the while enjoying his children, grandchildren and his friends.
It was a joy to watch Loleng and Celio together.
Life for Celio ended two years ago but up to this writing he is very much alive in the hearts of his immediate family and close friends.
The celebration was attended by immediate family members who were in the Philippines. Letty Coloyan and I were the only close friends who joined the family’s birthday celebration. There were three other childhood friends who were invited but I guess circumstances beyond their control prevented them from coming. Their absence made one member of the group say, “I guess some friends are not so steadfast after all.” This prompted me to say, “I presume they had their reasons and they had to make a choice.”
Our priorities in life come about because of the choices we make. Sometimes we just have to take people as they are and let them be.
What happens when others shut me out of their lives or ignore my presence because I am not important to them? I always take Tito Mercader’s slant on life when he says, “Iyaha ra gyud na.”
There really is something to be said about the old saying which goes this way: “You can bring a horse to a river but you can’t force that horse to drink!” So let’s allow others to live the lives they chose.
Another lesson for us women is the fact that there are just some people who do not want to have anything to do with us. They will go to great lengths to avoid a face to face confrontation. When this happens, I guess the best alternative is to make ourselves scarce and not be readily available to those who have shown that they want to have nothing to do with us. We just have to respect their choices.
Our egos might question: “Why on earth is this happening to us? What have we done to deserve such rudeness?” Instead of wallowing in self-pity, let this thought prevail: We can’t expect everyone to like us. So let us go on being ourselves. Let us not allow one or two people to affect how we act. Best of all, let us appreciate others.
Only recently I was touched by Jocel’s and Angging’s thoughtfulness. They are my two companions at home. As of this writing, Feb. 2, I’ve been hit by a serious bout of coughing. This is the seventh day of my ailment. I was pleasantly surprised when both of them served me lemonade as often as they could without my having to ask for it.
Today I decided to finally take antibiotics since rest and plenty of fluids did not dispel my coughing. At lunch time, I forgot to ask for my medicine. Imagine my surprise when these two very young ones approached me, bringing my antibiotics. The care and concern they have given me is something I will treasure.
Last Friday, my driver Frank dropped me at the Adoration Chapel of Redemptorist since I was early for the 5:30 p.m. mass. I told him to go directly to the convento because after mass I would just find my way to St. Gerards’ room for our meditation session. Imagine my surprise when I came out of the Adoration Chapel to find him waiting for me. I said: “I thought you would be already parked at the grounds of the convento.” Frank, armed with a big umbrella, said: “It’s drizzling, ma’am. I decided to wait so you won’t get wet on the way to the church.”
Some of us really have been blessed with companions who are able to think ahead, who try as much as possible to shield us from harm.
They too make choices and many times we get pleasantly surprised. I just wish more of us could be more observant of the many beautiful choices people around us make. It is really time to notice how people react and to try to understand when things do not turn out the way we want them to.
Published in the Sun.Star Cebu newspaper on February 09, 2014.