Singlestalk: Valentine's do's and don'ts-A A +A
Saturday, February 8, 2014
Michelle: Many couldn’t care less about Valentines Day. Personally, V-day is no big deal but since it’s a couple of days away, might as well talk on the do’s and don’ts of a Valentines date—that is if you have one. For guys, please be courteous and complimentary.
Your date has made an effort for you so you should show some appreciation. Do turn up for a date unless you have given enough time for it to be canceled.
Don’t argue or be rude to others on a date as it simply is not acceptable and a major turn off. Be a good listener.
Listening shows interest and the ability to compromise. If your idea of a date is talking about yourself and your opinions all night then do the world a favor and stay at home alone.
DJ: I agree. Conversation is an important part of a date. And it’ll be wonderful if communication is mainly between a woman and her date and not with her phone or with her mirror. Anything sane that a woman is comfortable with is okay for conversation.
Gossip is a no-no. Horoscope and zodiac signs are bearable but can be dispensed with. And if she’s the smart kind, there is no need to heighten her sentences with convoluted words to make her sound profound that you would need a dictionary or a thesaurus. Topics like sports, movies, music are the safe.
It’ll help too if a woman can be more specific with her preferences. Guys normally exert effort when on an important date and sometimes we read some signals wrong.
While most of us may have some fair share of gastronomic adventures, we’re still a bit intimidated when we’re given the “eye” when we make our orders. The silence that usually follows for every mistake is agonizing and awkward.
So if not getting what she wants will just ruin the evening, she’d better quit dropping hints and say things straight.
M: It would also be nice if guys make an effort to dress well. In this day and age there is absolutely no excuse to look bad. But even if you're best dressed, what's more important than looks is substance, thus a sense of humor would come in handy.
One factor that ruins dates more than anything else is the inability to laugh and enjoy.
Don’t forget the flowers. Flowers are expensive during V-day so it doesn't have to be a bouquet. And it doesn’t have to be roses
DJ: And since we’re in the area of finances, a woman’s sensitivity will be greatly appreciated. She should not assume her date has a car.
And if ever he has one, she should not assume that it is airconditioned.
Please stay on the safe side of the price list whenever possible unless you’ll notice that the guy is very well prepared.
Please also don’t choose every expensive entry on the menu leaving your date with nothing to order for himself but hot water or the complimentary house tea. Your sensitivity will be sweet enough for our dessert.
Be merciful to us too if you find us trying too hard to get through some nonergonomic tableware with our steak trapped in a quadrant plate with small partitions which makes it difficult to cut.
M: I think the biggest no-no when it comes to dating is poaching someone else’s date. That includes dating a married person or those in a “complicated relationship.” And don’t go to someone’s condo when she asks you to bring “foods”!
Some may enjoy having a string of dates on V-Day but it's not worth it. Besides, it’s expensive! So, other than that stern warning and words from the wise, enjoy V-day. And if you don't have a date, party with DJ! He’s available!
DJ: Or so you think. Anyway, Advance Happy Valentines Day, everyone!
Published in the Sun.Star Cebu newspaper on February 09, 2014.