Talk is cheap

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By Evelyn R. Luab

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Saturday, May 24, 2014


SOME people find it easy to say what they don’t mean. Some endorsers of certain products do not even use the products they are promoting.

Some politicians make statements like, “I only want to serve my country and my people.” With the different kinds of corruption surfacing lately, how can we believe them?

Show business personalities say, “We are going to get married. In the meantime, living together makes us know whether we are compatible or not!” At the rate that certain celebrities break up after a “living together period” or “traveling abroad together period,” we find these reasons are just excuses for society’s modern permissiveness.

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Filipinos in general do not yet know how to say no. Often times when somebody says “I will try,” the statement can be interpreted as a “no.” Even parents are guilty of using the phrase “we will see,” giving hope to a child’s request for her parents to “buy a Barbie doll.” Most of the time that semi-promise does not materialize.

Telephone chats can be misconstrued. When one party ends the call with “love you,” he or she is answered with “love you too.” Many times this tender closing can be the object of somebody’s dreams. Yet there are times when the “love you too” becomes an automatic catch phrase because it seems to be the right answer even if it is not meant sincerely.

When somebody receives a text message saying “take care,” sometimes the guy will answer, “I will, for you!” You have to learn to take that answer with a grain of salt. Talk is really cheap. Actions speak louder than words.

When somebody loves, really loves you, he shows with his actions how much you mean to him. He will want to spend time with you. He is not ashamed to show his feelings in public. You will not be someone he will hide in out-of-the-way small diners. He will even kneel next to you in church.

To our young men, it is also easy to spot the smooth-talking female. She will flutter you with: “You are really my Prince Charming! Let’s go out and have fun.” Her idea of fun may find you bar-hopping as she flutters her eyelashes at other prospective Prince Charmings. When you find yourself with an empty wallet after a night of fun, you can be sure you have been taken in by the woman's gift of gab. Men and women alike have been swindled by smooth-talking individuals who either appeal to a person’s hidden desire for more money or by the way they make something false seem true.

Many of us, however, never learn. We still get flattered when we receive love innuendos. Notice I did not use the phrase “declaration of love.” It is easier to get out of innuendos.

When somebody says, “I will be yours forever,” it would be wise to know if his definition of “yours” and “forever” are compatible with your definition of these two words.

I think it is time for us to distinguish between cheap talk and honest action. Let me share an example of a pure act of love from my 12-year-old granddaughter, Kate. When their domestic helper went on leave she surprised her parents by cooking lunch for the family with money taken from her meager savings. You can imagine how proud the parents are of her.

God often surprises us with amazing acts of love when we least expect it. Take time to look back and count the acts of love that came your way. Many of us have lost count. Meaningless words are just sweet nothings. Acts of love are treasures that come straight from a pure heart.

It is really time for all of us to speak the truth even if it hurts. Hiding behind words is really an act of cowardice. One lesson to be learned from cheap talk is this. The truth will eventually surface and when it does, it is not only one party who gets hurt. In the long run, one only realizes the value of a thing when that precious thing is lost forever.

Published in the Sun.Star Cebu newspaper on May 25, 2014.

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