This is your fault, girl tells mother-A A +A
Sunday, August 10, 2014
MANY teenage girls blame their mothers at some point for adolescent problems. This girl’s case is more serious than most.
“Sayop man gud ni nimo. Moduol ko, imo kong iwakli. Love ra man akong gusto (This is your fault. I approach you, but you keep driving me away. All I wanted was for you to love me),” said Marian, a 14-year-old girl who was arrested after allegedly selling shabu to a police decoy, inside a house with nearly P6 million worth of the drugs.
She sat on a plastic chair, her pink shirt marked with the word “Faith”.
“Kung wala pa lang ko nimo pasagdi, di ko maingon ani (If you hadn’t neglected me, this wouldn’t have happened),” she said.
Sun.Star Cebu caught the pair speaking inside the Punta Princesa Police Station, where the girl was being held in custody. The mother and an elder sister were visiting.
Asked what was on her mind, the girl said she fears for her future, having only realized the scope of her problem.
Some P5.9 million worth of shabu was confiscated from her.
Marian (not her real name) said she knew she was selling shabu, but didn’t realize how much it was worth. She was only told to hand it over to the buyer, and she would get P1,000 in return.
The youngest in a brood of four, she had been living in her friend’s rented house in Barangay Labangon, Cebu City and only went home every now and then to get clothes.
She also occasionally goes to school but has been repeating several grades. She got discouraged, she said, after her classmates teased her for having a cleft palate.
The girl is enrolled in Grade 5 and sometimes attends the Alternative Learning System, a program of the Department of Education that offers basic literacy for out-of-school youth. At her age, she should be sophomore year in high school.
Her mother Janice (not her real name), 49, said she didn’t fall short in providing for her children’s needs.
When she and Marian’s father broke up when the girl was only two months old, she worked different jobs just to put food on the table.
Janice washed her neighbors’ clothes, took care of other babies, watched over people in hospital and ran errands, such as getting documents from government offices, just to earn money.
“Ako gibuhat ang tanan para lang dili siya magbinuang. Pero gahi man kaayo ug ulo. Mao na ni iyang tambal karon (I did everything to keep her from going astray. But she’s stubborn. This will teach her a lesson now),” she said.
But the mother said she still has hope and faith that her daughter can turn her life around.
“Kay kung dili na siya magbag-o, ako na mismo ang magpadakop niya (Because if she doesn’t mend her ways, I will have her arrested myself),” she added. DSM
Published in the Sun.Star Cebu newspaper on August 11, 2014.