Michelle (M): Got your eye on someone to love? You’re more likely to attract your intended by displaying your sense of humor than by displaying your intelligence.

A lot of singles believe they’re most likely to fall in love with someone who makes them laugh; and a few express a preference for someone who makes them think. Quality of character is the no. 1 attribute that makes most people fall in love with their spouses, while sense of humor is the second choice. Indeed, a funny person gets more laughs but does it mean he or she gets more dates?

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Darwin John (DJ): That’s precisely why I’m working double time on the quality of my character because there’s little I can do with my looks! But seriously, people who make sense are generally attractive. It’s so much easier to warm up with someone with an IQ that’s higher than room temperature.

OK, I admit men tend to be more visual in our assessment. But a good number of us still look for something more that’s stored in between those pretty ears to sustain our interest over a period of time. And it’s endearing when it comes with a good sense of humor. Ideal relationships are made in heaven. So are thunder and lightning. That’s why it’s vital to be a person who has both the grip of things and the ability to find something positive even in a time of challenge.

M: What is it in laughter that magnetizes people? They say when we exercise we produce endorphins.

Endorphins are said to make people happy. I wonder what we produce when we laugh? Aside from the potential build up of gases, which if uncontrolled would not be a laughing matter, laughter creates energy that draws people together, lightens tense situations and makes one attractive to the opposite sex. I remember a scene from Sleepless in Seattle in which Tom Hanks dated a woman who laughed like a hyena. It was funny when he winced every time she laughed!

DJ: You found it hilarious. You were able to connect. That makes the humor appealing to you. The same holds true for a relationship.

Phony laughter isn’t funny at all. Otherwise, hyenas would have been really cute. Humor is a plus when it isn’t used to attract attention. It should be spontaneous, natural and unstructured.

That’s why shared laughter is a positive indicator of how well a couple has bonded. As what people say, there are only two times that a man cannot understand a woman: before marriage and after marriage.

Being able to find humor in such situations is a good cure for a potential clash. Laughter, after all, is a potent medicine. Match it with an average-to-killer conversational skills, the right mix, and anyone can transform from a random Joe or Jane into a discerning Romeo or Juliet.

M: Having a sense of humor conveys that one has the ability to see the lighter side of life. Having that ability, a person is more likely to accept that all things have a reason and a purpose and though life is hard, it need not be miserable.

We have a choice to create happiness for ourselves and for others. When we laugh, it lights up the face, cools the head and warms the heart.

DJ: Yup. A person with the healthy kind of humor is usually a person who also makes good sense. Because it’s also likely that he or she who laughs last thinks the slowest! But seriously, humor plus the quality of one’s character make a person strikingly attractive. We cannot deny the necessity of entertainment in human function.

Life, while still imperfect, becomes more interesting when it is fun. The same holds true for you and me.

We all come with weaknesses along with our strengths. But a person who finds something good about himself and is just as interested to see that in others is definitely engaging. It doesn’t necessarily come with an engagement ring but why worry?

Never mind if the corpse of Halloween has grown cold as the capitalist are piping in the Christmas songs.

What matters most is while you’re serious about life you don’t take yourself or your being single very seriously. Once you break this outlook by dropping it, you’re already in for a good start.

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