Woman in the sex video

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Wednesday, February 6, 2013


AIDED by her lawyer, the woman in the sex video came out yesterday to dispel rumors that she had killed herself after the video became public.

This is what she said at the press conference with her lawyer, Inocencio de la Serna, present:

The video was taken in a boarding house in 2011 or two years ago. The guy in the video is no longer her boyfriend. He had lost his mobile phone that was used to record their lovemaking and he had informed her about it.

She does not regret doing the video because it was intended to be for her and her then boyfriend’s private use, but she is deeply sorry for the shame that the video, when it became publicly accessible, caused her school and her family.

The university did not kick her out; she stopped attending her hotel and restaurant management (HRM) classes after the video came out. She is appealing to the school to let her graduate.

And please, stop the spread of the video.

I admire the woman’s courage to come out and rise above the ridicule and condemnation hurled at her by strangers and people she knows. When the story broke out, public opinion was against her and, to a certain extent, her school when it became known.

She is fighting for what she thinks is due her: graduation. She is in the dean’s list, after all. That a private act, done by two consenting adults outside the premises of the Catholic university, is going to be made the basis of her future is regrettable yet unfair.

Her fault? She was wearing her school uniform and ID during the sex video.

How a couple sexually excite themselves should be respected. Let us not be hypocrites and feign disconcertion upon seeing a picture or video of a couple in a sexual act. We are, by nature, repressed voyeurs.

In the newsroom yesterday, we talked about how the video has been passed on from one mobile phone account to another at P50 per pasa last Tuesday and then just at P5 per pasa yesterday. This is, of course, unverified. None of us asked that it be forwarded to our phones. We feel for the woman.

At the press conference she said she cannot stop people from scorning or “discriminating” her. All she asks from them is to stop the spread of the video.

Why is the onus on the woman? Where is the ex-boyfriend? The woman is obviously smart and no doormat. It takes courage to face the media and tell your unflattering story.

If investigators are sincere, then they should be seriously looking for the persons responsible for the posting of the video. They can watch the video over and over but they should go after those behind its posting on websites. They have leads; after all, video posts leave an electronic trail.

The woman, who is from Bohol, said she is thankful for her family who has stayed by her side all the time. When you’re in the pit, it’s family that pulls you out of it.

Bobby Nalzaro, in his Superbalita column today, has this advice to couples having sex: just switch off the lights so no one sees what you do.

A good enough advice.

Published in the Sun.Star Cebu newspaper on February 07, 2013.

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