Lady Bam wants to be heard-A A +A
Wednesday, September 18, 2013
ON A rare Tuesday afternoon with no scheduled shoots, media personality and ABS CBN talent Lady Bam showed up for the interview, entered the shop oblivious to the stares and instant recognition threw his way. It was a combination of pajama party and spa get-together, the day Lady Bam and I agreed with some downtime.
We felt like long lost friends, keeping up with each other, and indeed it was a great day.
Quite honestly, the whole afternoon was not enough for all the "keeping up"; we had to eat dinner to step on the brakes of our "tsismis".
Lady Bam is a lover of life, thanks to his Ikepuno experience he admits to become more in synch with himself. And then there are the things he knows for sure.
"I have flirty eyes," he laughed. He can't plan his life that far ahead, but he said: "I just know I love what I have now and I am enjoying what's coming my way."
He feels he has been through quite a lot in his life and that a prayerful spiritual life is what helped him become better.
His experience taught him some invaluable lessons, with the advantage of working in a profession in which he generates immediate response and for someone who sits at the pinnacle of media success, Lady Bam or Benjamin T. Petilos in real life, born on March 25, 1983, is as humble and down to earth as they come.
Despite his long and accomplished career locally, he remains an incredibly down-to-earth and genuinely appreciative individual.
His smile is infectious. He's mild-mannered and enjoys spending time with his family and close friends just like any other person. To him, he's simply that -- a person, nothing out of the ordinary. But at the same time, one who also realizes he's been blessed to entertain people and making a difference.
Over the years, Lady Bam was never swallowed up by the process; his success didn’t change his personality.
Simply put: It's his being.
For him, this is a life of normalcy. His whole focus is always on being in the limelight. People do the craziest things just to make a living or sometimes just to challenge themselves to see if they can. Often their tales are both fascinating and funny.
And Lady Bam admitted to have fooled a TV executive once just to get to where he is today. He added that he owes a lot of his success and growth as a media personality to TV executive Christie Navacilla-Garcia.
"My first challenge was to interview "Power Boys" (90's local boy group headed by Jordan Herrera). I grabbed the opportunity, because I wanted to make a name, dili pede mag ulaw ulaw, so to challenge myself I never hesitated. From then on, I become a production assistant and segment producer in some ABS CBN shows. It's an experience I wouldn't trade for anything, to me learning is a sacrifice and I can look back and say I did good so far”. (Lady Bam currently is one of ABS CBN's local show hosts "MAG TV Na, Sadya Ta" and anchors a morning show KTB "Nasayod Bayot" on DXAB Radyo Patrol 1296 Davao with Inday Seryaka and Macel Dasalla).
The Other Side of Bam
As he freely talks about his gender preference, he admitted it was never a problem at all -- his family has always been very supportive of him.
"To me, it's not about gender, it's the person," he added while munching a bag of chips. I followed through with, "Does it bother you how people perceive you?"
And without blinking an eye, he quipped "I care but not that much. I am happy and I know the universe is not limiting. I am so happy."
I started to channel my inner Oprah Winfrey moment and asked him what he knows for sure. It took awhile for him to answer, but was straight-forward in saying "I am a celebrity, it comes with an obligation. Gusto naku mahimong tulay sa kaayuhan, to bridge hope to people. I am a person. I am a son and I am loved."
Then a picture of us both, suddenly surfaced that interrupted the interview with boisterous laughter. I realized we know exactly way back, or I guess I never thought there would be memento to capture that scene, I was that neophyte teenager hosting Ms. Gay Mintal with Lady Bam as one of the finalist, both braving the rain.
The whole page won't be enough to tell you how fun and inspiring that interview turned out. The talk was enriching that goes beyond the glamour and glitz of showbiz, and I have a high regard and respect for Lady Bam after that, such a good person when he is not acting out his wild antics.
"I have to live with every decision that I've made," he said. "And it got me to where I am today. And I'm not going to look back."
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Published in the Sun.Star Davao newspaper on September 18, 2013.