The endings of things-A A +A
Saturday, August 24, 2013
I KNOW we are all angry and dismayed about the pork barrel issue. I look around and feel that sense of utter disgust about how people can be so greedy. The anguish and outrage hangs heavily in the air the way memories of a nightmare seem to linger in your head long before you've woken up from bad slumber. Needless to say, it leaves a discomforting feeling that we have been duped. Grrrrr.
As a Filipino, I am affected by all these things that are happening. I am angry and outraged most especially when ten billion pesos could have improved the lives of Filipinos, if only it had been used to provide better projects, programs and services set out to truly benefit the general population. I was grappling with these unsettling thoughts all throughout the week. It is hard not to notice because everyone is talking about it! I do not know about you, but this issue has been stressing me out. I really cannot imagine how people can be that greedy.
So, I really needed to step back and just review life experiences in general. We are all affected yes, but in the end, we do have our own lives to live, nurture and cherish. I really believe that life is best lived to the fullest, the best way each individual can. It is often easier said than done, mainly because there are things in life that we cannot control. Much as we hate it, it is a fact that exists and is alas, true. How we maneuver our life through this depends on us, but it is comforting to know that even when there times like these, we can still learn from it and therefore be able to rise above it when we experience it again in the future.
These thoughts resounded in my head last week as I had been lamenting over my experiences concerning a painting I did and the strong want to destroy it because I did not like it at first glance. Truly, this parallels how we can feel about our own lives. We can plan and set out to be what we want to be but still, we cannot always expect to achieve every single thing. No matter how much we want it to be that way. There are things in life that seem to take a life of its own.
I had originally planned to put out articles based on my experiences in . I figured that there was a whole lot of other things that I could learn and share as I reflect about life while I peel through the unwanted paint layers and decide what to do with it. And then the unexpected happen..
Somebody liked and bought my painting. ;)
And so, there goes all future reflective "destroying" sessions. No more offshoot articles. It has come to an end and I am honestly left quite astonished and for a number or reasons.
First. Beauty is indeed in the eyes of the beholder. Sure, I have come to like my painting and the lessons that it taught me; but there will be other people who will connect with it with more ease than I did. For whatever reason it may be, they have more appreciation for it. Much like in our lives, there are times when we think that nobody really pays attention to what we do but really, there are those who take notice, we just are not aware of them! We affect other people as much as they affect us. So we need to be mindful. Let us not shortchange ourselves and our abilities to affect others. It would really be great to affect people to act in a more positive way.
More importantly, endings are a part of life. We often think of endings in a negative way. Most specially when endings are abrupt and come without any closure, we sometimes look at it as a sign of failure. But is it?
Endings don't really need to have such a negative connotation, even when it is preceded by an unfortunate event. We all know that there are indeed bad endings but they will only remain a dismal, traumatic ending when you let it. I believe that when we learn to use bad experiences to gain deeper insight for better understanding while some things are the way they are, we will be able to benefit from it and move on with a better outlook in life.
When I sold the painting I was trying to "fix," I realized that I had to allow a bit more leeway for the unexpected developments. It had come at a time I least expected it to happen, but I had to deal with it. I was not really ready to part with it but the moment called for it. Much like our experiences in life.
There are endings we are ready for, and then there are those that we are not ready for, too. Realizing this, I had a lightbulb moment. No matter how the endings end, endings will always be coming our way in all shapes or forms, good or bad, ready or not. It is a FACT OF LIFE. So, would it be better to generally accept it with open arms? It will certainly be less stressful! To have a heart ready to surrender certain things without a fight is sometimes a good thing. It reminds us that as human beings we are not perfect and that we do not have all the answers. It makes us more humane in that we gain better understanding as we gain better insight of ourselves, we develop a better understanding of everyone else.
Happy Sunday!!!! ;)
Published in the Sun.Star Davao newspaper on August 25, 2013.