Don’t worry, be happy-A A +A
Saturday, September 14, 2013
WE’VE listened to it many times, it hogged the air waves when it was first released, but we just went on and worried anyway.
I’ve been through the worst and back. Wept a gadzillion gallon of tears and shivered in fear. I can’t say I won’t do it anymore, all I can say is I’m trying my darnedest best to remove worry.
Think. You have this major problem that you can’t find a solution to, yet. The normal reaction will be to brood about it and toss and turn at night. Worrying.
Think. Will worrying solve the problem?
What if you will just think of the problem, and then when you realize you don’t have the solution on hand, first, because it’s nighttime already, second because you just can’t find a solution to it, then you go to sleep with a hope and a prayer for a better day after a night’s rest.
Result: You wake up refreshed.
Imagine if you worried over the same problem, realizing you don’t have a solution on hand because it’s already night time and you simply can’t find a solution to it, then you toss and turn the whole night through until the sun peeks through your bedroom window.
Result: The problem is still there, you’re still worried, and you feel worse because on top of the worry, you lack sleep. Now throw in, walang gana. You stop eating. You’re not just sleepless, you also starve yourself. Result? Haggard, ugly you with not enough strength left to roll up your sleeves and labor hard to pummel down the problem. We haven’t even touched on liquor, drugs, and suicide yet.
Me, I’m all refreshed and ready to attack another day.
“In every life we have some trouble
“When you worry you make it double
“Don't worry, be happy...”
Promise. It’s a difficult choice. We’re designed to worry. Worry is supposed to keep us on our toes. But the design came long before humans invented liquor and drugs and money and instruments that kill. But that’s what it is – a choice we can take. Worry is a trigger. It’s an emotion that tells you, something is wrong. Recognize that emotion and then let it go so that you can now tackle the problem without being bogged down by irregular heartbeats, a throbbing head, and insomnia.
As I often reminded my staff before whenever power is interrupted and computers go pffft: “Will shouting and cursing bring back your lost files? Nope. So, let’s all take a rest and wait for the power to return.”
Anger… another emotion that should only be regarded as a trigger. It is even worse than worry because this time, it not only directly affects the angry; it also affects the environment of the angry and the anger-stimulant, especially when this stimulant is a person.
How many lives have been snuffed out because of anger. Innumerable.
But wait… I am only referring to anger against an individual for an individual act. That is, if a person cuts you on the road, just beep the horn but let go of the anger. If a young person all suited up with his earbuds and bonnet and everything else that make him functionally deaf and blind, yank the earbuds off, teach him mindfulness and the right and wrong manners, and then leave, leaving behind too the anger. (it will help too if you stick the earbuds back, just for emphasis).
If you’re watching the television because you just can’t help it, Benhur Luy draws you in, don’t boil up alone. Tend to the anger so that it doesn’t blow up, let it simmer, don’t let it grow cold. Watch, listen, comprehend, so that your individual simmer will find company in the collective anger that can bring about changes. Boiling up alone will just kill you, and there just might be no one to call the 911 for help.
Next, regret. If worry doesn’t help and anger can blind, regret is really nothing but hindsight and will not change anything. Better, recompense.
Now that we are on the topic of emotions and how it can addle you up... Prayers for Zamboanga because there you see all the emotions mixed together in a tragedy that has and will be claiming lives. Peace initiatives now all have come to naught. We’re back to the 1960s singing anti-war songs…
Finish this today, the mayor said, apparently forgetting that hers is an urbanized city with thousands of people.
Sad, isn’t it? But let that sadness go soon after recognizing the emotion and instead, ponder. We have a lot to ponder on. But leave your worries behind. This is a serious matter that requires serious thoughts, not worries nor anger nor regret. firstname.lastname@example.org
Published in the Sun.Star Davao newspaper on September 15, 2013.