For dark days-A A +A
Saturday, September 28, 2013
I WENT through several possible ‘issues’ I wanted to write about to share with you today. It has always been my ‘thing’ to write about what I felt was my prevailing lesson/idea/hang-up/issue/happy thought for the entire week that has come to pass. Usually, I would have a pretty good idea about what to write about around midweek and well, the past week was no different. Except that none of the topics that I had in mind seemed to leap at me, begging to be written. Ugh. They were okay but not as okay as I want it to be. None of them really, really made that impression on me. Haay.
Then I realized that although I was having a good week, I actually had gray clouds hovering over me. Literally and figuratively. Gloomy weather with rain hardly affects me, in fact, it is one of my favored natural settings; but the gray cloud of emotions that we all experience..yuck.
It is good practice to always try and say positive about things. Yes, you can choose to be happy by looking at the brighter side of things rather than wallowing in the murky water of negative vibes and self-doubt. Yes, it requires practice and constant application to your life and experiences, but when you get the hang of it, it becomes second nature and you benefit from it by knowing exactly how to stress out when stressful situations present its ugly heads to you! Certainly, walking in sunshine is always good except that there are times when the sunshine becomes rain or when you get sunburned.
What I mean is that you can never just experience one side of life over and over. Life is a conglomeration of theses and antitheses. Hellooo. Fact of life! It has always been like that and will remain like that. Life is a constant state of flux and so good days although they may come one after the other, bad times will be lurking in the shadows waiting for its turn to pounce on you, cause you pain, anguish and wreak havoc on your perceived contented life. We all know this right? I certainly hope that no one has developed the crazy notion that life is one long party.
At some point, the food and drinks run out and the revelers leave leaving you by your lonesome to clean up the mess and prepare to come back to reality. This is how things are in the real world. Life is a tug of war between good and evil, happy and sad, great and awful. This being said, it has come to pass that it is indeed true that we cannot win every single challenge in life. With much regret, there will be days that you will not be able to win over to the bright side even if you pull all the stops, bells and whistles, friends, connections and tricks that you have safely tucked in your pocket of tricks and saves for a rainy day. These are the dark days and when it sets in, expect a bumpy ride or worse.
Imagine feeling all bright and sunny then realizing that you are actually experiencing the dark days. A. R. R. R. R. R. G. G H. H. H. That was prevailing theme of the week, less apparent. No wonder that I felt like I had split personality, a division of being happy and sad, hopeful and hopeless, excited and BLAH. Porbida.
Sometimes, we need take notice and heed to the void. That empty feeling that seem to reach abysmal depths as we do nothing. It is uncomfortable, unnerving and disconcerting but it is a component of life that we need to experience to fully appreciate it. Everything in life has a reason for being there. Everything has a purpose that it needs to serve, whether you learn what it is immediately, or not. Some experiences we welcome with open arms as much as there are those we would rather ignore and pretend never existed. Nevertheless, it is there and the best way to get past it is to accept it so that you can move on.
Acknowledging the not-so-good stuff allows you to just let things be so that you do not spend all your energies suppressing an ugly feeling. We all know how that can take a toll on us. Feel bad when you feel bad. Swear, kick and scream when needed. Cry when absolutely needed. Disengage when required. Don’t hesitate to pull all the stunts needed to get through it! It is one of life’s built-in features that feels like an awful complication you would rather drown out or block from consciousness. Just remember that all of us go through this ugly phase repeatedly and all throughout life. You are not alone in this experience. And it is a spice of life that makes it taste fuller and yummier!
Happy Sunday! :)
Published in the Sun.Star Davao newspaper on September 29, 2013.