A woman’s invincibility-A A +A
Bahin sang Bubay
Sunday, April 27, 2014
LOOKING at the beautiful though withered face of my father’s sibling who is now lay in state makes me wonder at the strength of this woman, not only spiritually, but even physically. For over nine decades that she has lived fully so, she had weathered every daunting event in her life, which, for the most part, she had given in service not only to her nuclear family, but also to many among her siblings’ sons and daughters and to her partners’ kin.
Trinidad Avellanosa-Joaquin, 92, had epitomized the Filipina indomitable spirit in a way that only she had exemplified. When she married Atty. Jose Joaquin, a well-respected widower who initially had eleven (11) small children left behind by the demise of their mother, she knew she was in for a great challenge.
Through the years that she had to nurture and take in her care the little children as her own, she also learned a unique art of caring, a kind of loving that took every needing child into her sphere. There had been countless instances when she would compromise not for herself, but for the children of her relatives, when she offered the shelter of their home in that old house along the corner of Jacinto-Arellano streets.
In her quite unassuming way, she showed the world what it is to be a co-creator in a world that is full of pretentious charity. She was the ultimate example of a perfect being that has made life worthwhile for many among those whom she had touched with her nurturing.
Her very life was an inspiration for many who knew her, especially among mothers who were facing daunting instances in their own lives.
There are people who are blessed with such qualities without having to exert so much effort, to be naturally gifted with that capability to see beyond the physical make up of an individual. She was one of those who would carry a burden without being noticed, and yet bear it courageously without showing signs of being worn out or burdened.
She had the kind of heart that is compassionate beyond reproach, but at the same time, so strong in the face of daunting situations. In today’s world, compassion might have lost its meaning but certainly not in our sphere where women like her still thrive to pursue a meaningful life shared with others.
She had that quality in a Filipina woman that was akin to our heroines in the past, women who had to undergo so many challenges in their life that was offered in the service of humanity. Such qualities ensures humanity’s perpetuation, and it is only women who can give fruition to this humble mission.
The giving of life that is exemplified in the birthing of another human being can never be assumed by the male specie, no matter their adeptness at technology that has changed the face of the earth, so they say. Because without the vessel that carries each human being into the world, human existence could have been extinct by now.
Yet many times this fact has been glossed over. That is why it is always an opportune time to celebrate a woman’s life that had been a model of a perfect creation, a co-creator to the Great Magbabaya in every sense of the word.
Published in the Sun.Star Davao newspaper on April 28, 2014.