Subtlety

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By Nina S. Custodio

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Saturday, May 31, 2014


IT SEEMS that my past six days have been days with lessons of subtlety. Everything seems to have been quiet that I was kinda bored about how the days rolled on. I guess I have become quite used to jampacked days filled with action, color and drama that when the shift to a milder gear just left me a bit surprised and thinking about what to do to my days to make it a bit more 'active.' I am sure we all have had days like these, when we are left at a loss when we suddenly have time to relax and just be, even when we really did not ask for it. It is more appreciated when we are able to tear away from our usual busy schedules rather than actually waking up and finding ourselves in the middle of a ‘calm’ week! We have been so used to being part pf the rat race that when we are devoid of these stress-provoking environs, we grapple with the peace and quiet that it brings. We have become so amped by our daily struggles that somehow anything less either comes off as boring and/or suspicious!

I was ‘bored’ this week with things sort of winding down and a bit more quiet than usual in my universe. My summer was tame really, mainly because I have opted not to attend summer school for my Master’s course in Clinical Psychology. It has always been a welcomed challenge for me to assume the role of a student--to study new things, report in class and to turn in papers on a regular basis. I keep thinking that my summer would have been more exciting had I enrolled! But then again there were priorities that needed to be addressed and so it had to take the backseat. All of us need some quiet time. We all need a respite from our daily struggles. Sometimes we need some down time and lead lives that are much. Much less stimulating than we have become accustomed to living. Life should not always be punctuated with exclamation points! We all could use a comma, semicolon and even a train of periods once in a while. Everything does not need to happen in a grand way all the time. Every day need not be an event in your life that can be considered exceptional or out of the ordinary. Fireworks don’t need to go off each time you are able to achieve or experience something Sometimes, things can happen to us and we never really appreciate it, nor realize the impact it has on our lives, until much, much, much later. Right?

Last Wednesday and Friday, the whole family agreed to watch two movies. Yup. We watched Sarah Geronimo and Coco Martin’s movie on opening day. We even got tickets in advance! Following in the tradition of my father, who loved Pinoy films and who always took us along with him to watch Dolphy, TVJ, and of course his idol, FPJ, the whole family and two friends excitedly went to watch.

What do I have to say about the film? It was a good! It did not have the usual elements of intense emotional outbursts na pang-Famas nor scenes that seriously elicited fanatic shrieks of delight from the audience but it was really good. It took some time for me to warm up to the story but in the end, it was THAT kind of story that had a lingering effect that keeps you wondering about something that uh, you could not seem to put your finger on. My sister actually woke up the next morning wanting to sing “Maybe This Time.” Go figure! I would say that it was a pretty “quiet” film and being so, challenges the stereotypical criteria that a good movie should always have that larger-than-life almost theatrical acting so that the audiences could fully appreciate the movie for what it is. This one was subtle. The story unfolded the way a good friend you’re still getting to know would tell you about himself… slowly and calmly, revealing important experiences only as the need arises and as one’s trust builds. It tells the story the way it would have normally played out in real life most of the time, no landmark movie quotes you have never heard before, just phrases that you might have said to someone or to yourself that you never quite got over like: “There was never an us.” Harharhar. Still, I came away from it feeling that I actually agree that it can happen in real life and in the same way it played out in the movie. For once, I really felt the theme song fit the movie perfectly, and not the other way around, which was the usual thing.

Maleficent was a masterful way of retelling a long accepted story of villain and heroine. Angelina Jolie was perfect for the role, I think, not because she had the looks, but rather because her performance transcended merely looking the part!! Surprisingly, the movie did not possess that “darkness’ that I expected knowing that it would be more concerned with the evil fairy rather than the story of Aurora, more popularly known as Sleeping Beauty. The movie in itself did not have the grandiosity that most CGI (computer-generated images) films would normally have. Sure there were special effects but not in the caliber of the ones that we have become so accustomed to seeing! There were no typical villainess evil laughter scenes that I am pretty sure a lot of people would have expected to be thrown into the movie at some point. Instead, it presented a well-known fairy tale villainess who actually had human feelings and who struggled with it and dealt with it, the way a human being would (minus the fab horns and the black wings). I loved the fact that “True love” did not equate with romantic love in the movie, the way most people expected it would be, even in real life. Very nice and very subtle way of saying that there is more love in this world than that romance. Oh but we know that, right? Well, Maleficent subtly reminds you to remember more often.

There was a lesson for me to learn with all the subtlety that somehow begged to be noticed during the last six days. Indeed it is true that we have the tendency to prioritize the things that catch our attention the most. However, we have to realize that there are equally important events that may not grab our attention as much. We need to find time to also recognize that they actually exist. That we are continuously sensitized to highly emotional or stress-causing events is a fact. We become vigilant of these things things because we always anticipate what we have coming and wish to resolve things even before it causes any disturbance in our lives. Understood and expected. But we have to also be mindful about events and happenings that fall below that threshold because really, they have lessons and blessings for us to appreciate and enjoy, too!!

Have a Happy Sunday Everyone!!! :)

Published in the Sun.Star Davao newspaper on June 01, 2014.

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