SOME say it will not work. Others say it will if you truly know its worth. But how does love conquer distance? How does distance know the true meaning of love? No person can ever answer these questions except those who’ve been there; experienced and survived the situation. To fall in love is already a challenge. But to face the distance just to prove your love for someone doubles the challenge.
Loving someone from afar may really be a thought-breaker, trust-and-loyalty-tester and patience-absorber. You’ll have doubts, you’ll have fears, and you’ll have worries. It is an ultimate big risk. It is a fight of either you’ll win or lose, or a fight to win and learn.
The moment you say good bye to that someone you used to be with is the moment you have to face the reality of being alone for days, weeks, months or even years. The things you used to do with that personcan no longer be and it will never be that special again. From the sweet morning and goodnight texts, picking you up somewhere, the fun dates, the nonsense conversations at night, the hugs,the kisses, and even the fights. The heartache of being apart and living separate lives will start to wear you down, and soon enough, even feelings will fizzle out.
Distance sucks, some say. It will make you cry every time you remember who you miss and the memories you had shared together before the freaking distance kept you apart. The distance will bother you, send you to wondering if the person you miss, misses you too. It will keep you awake at the weirdest hour at night and even ponder if it’s still worth the fight.
At some point you’ll have to control your emotions so that it will not affect your partner. Sometimes, your best friend is the word “pretend”. Pretend that you’re strong, that distance doesn’t bother you, that you don’t miss that person and even pretend that you’re okay doing stuff alone. You’ll have fights that are two times harder to fix because it only can be settle through Skype or any social media account that you both have. It will be way harder than what you expected.
Every day you will have the choice to be in it. It requires double or even multiple efforts. And maybe at some point of time you’ll freak out and ask yourself “why am I in this situation?” then, your thoughts will start to bother you.
Distance can be unpleasant. But life must go on and not all things happen for a negative reason. You can put that distance as a challenging yet positive situation, which can make you a better person for the partner you deem worth it. There is too the knowledge that if you survive the distance, your relationship can survive anything. Distance is not forever. Still, while the worst part of life is waiting, the best part of life is having someone worth waiting for. Love cannot be measured by how long you wait; it’s about how well you understand why are you waiting.
Distance between two hearts is not an obstacle, rather a beautiful reminder of just how strong true love can be. As what most of the people who experienced long distance relationship says, the couple that are “meant to be” are the once that go through everything that could tear them apart but come out even stronger than they were before. Not everyone is blessed with a challenge that could make all the sacrifices worth it. So at the end of the day, no matter how heavy your feeling is, as long as you understand why you’re waiting and you know that you’re waiting for the person you think is worthy, distance will never be an issue. (Tracy G. Destacamento)
Tracy is a student of Notre Dame of Dadiangas University.
Published in the Sun.Star Davao newspaper on April 26, 2015.
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