Sunday, October 29, 2006 I’m still in love with my ex
Dr. Dana Ruiz-Sesante,Cindy Ruiz Garaña, R.N. Women’s world
Dear Dra. Dana,
I’ve always valued your opinion and this is why I’ve always followed your column since the very start.
Recently, I broke up with my boyfriend. Although I loved him that much, I felt that he didn’t really care for me the way I cared for him. I never really loved someone as much as I do this guy. My fault, I guess, is that, I wasn’t the “social butterfly” that he wanted me to be--that is, going out with him to parties and discos, which I couldn’t take. This was what he told me when I confronted him on his cold treatment; that I wasn’t always there, when he needed me.
Other than this reason, I had always been so nice to him--making reports for his office, waking him up so he wouldn't be late, fixing his disorganized pad, bringing his baon to work,etc… I did not complain because I also enjoyed doing those things. But he never acknowledged these.
Now, I’ve got nothing left. I’m filled with emptiness and unbearable pain inside.
Why does it have to be this way? Just when I thought that everything was okay, the memories…the bittersweet memories come back. I still am very much in love with him despite what he has put me through.
Please, Doc, help me to start all over again.
Thank you very much.
Lost Girl
Dear Lost Girl,
Thank you so much for believing in me, and thank God you found your way back--that you gained back your right senses.
Now you are sensible enough to see from what you were in your “gone” relationship with him--that all along, you were a martyr.
If early in your relationship you discovered that it was only a one-sided thing--then you were right to put an end to it--and cut clean away.
The wound will need healing of course, be realistic, give it a little time. Meanwhile, do not brood over your loss. He’s not worth it.
Instead, give yourself a break. You don’t have to be a social butterfly nor anti-social. Be moderate and act your age. You are lucky to have parents who care for you. You are young and I’m sure you’re intelligent, too.
So, move on; you will soon realize that you have become wiser because of that experience. Cheer up and good luck!
Truly yours,
Dra. Dana
I lack a close friend
Dear Ate Cindy,
I’m a high school student and an only child. I have loving and responsible parents who see to it that I am not being neglected.
I even had a yaya during my grade school days. Ate Cindy, my concern is that I don’t have what you may call a “close friend”.
I get along well with my classmates, I’ve got plenty of acquaintances but no friend that I can share my trouble and one who will be with me through ups and downs. How will I be able to know if I already have this kind of friend? Thank you and more power to your column.
Joan
Dear Joan,
What is a friend? There are acquaintances, casual friendships and close friendships. We all have acquaintances, faces we recognize and people we greet by name. There are friends that stay with us no matter what. They listen to us and are genuinely interested in what is best for us. They always tell us the truth even if it hurts sometimes. But that’s okay because they are only concerned for our well-being.
Who are your friends? Are they just acquaintances or intimate friends? Sometimes our friends may let us down, but there is one thing that is sure. Jesus wants to be your friend and if you accept His friendship, you will never be disappointed.
God Bless,
Cindy
Dana Ruiz-Sesante, M.D. owns and operates Ruiz Derma & Spa which offers a wide selection of beauty services such as ionto/micro, facial treatment, acne treatment, nose lifting/trimming, eyebag removal; cyst, wart and mole removal; skin bleaching, unwanted hair removal, virginity restoration, slimming program, body therapy, salon service, and chair massages. There are branches at SM City Cebu, Ayala Center, Escario, Mambaling, Marina Mall (Lapu-Lapu), and the latest branch is at the Wave Mall, Pres. D. Macapagal Blvd, Makati City. She can be reached thru fax no. 253-9362 or via email at ruizderma@yahoo.com
Cynthia Ruiz-Garaña, RN, supervises Ruiz Beauty and Healthcare Training Institute which offers the following courses: Healthcare Giving, Certified Nursing Assistant, Licensed Practical Nursing and Beauty Culture (Cosmetology) as well as Local Nursing Board Review. It is located at 132 Don Mariano Cui St., Capitol Site, Cebu City. She can be reached through fax. no. 254-8152 or via e-mail at ruizderma@yahoo.com
