GOT a purpose? Then fellowship with the right company of people. As a saying goes, “It’s hard to soar high with eagles when you work with turkeys.”
The people we fellowship with somehow determines our direction in life. Consider this: what we hear determines our thought patterns. Our thought patterns determine our value systems. Our value systems influence our choices. Our choices determine our destiny.
It has always been said that the type of people we stay with reveals our nature as an individual. An old saying goes, “Tell me who your friends are and I will tell you who you are.” It is because as we spend time with people, we embrace them for who they are. In doing so, we unconsciously embrace the things they believe in, the food they love, the movies they enjoy and the topics they want to talk about. This happens until our whole being is formed by the same things that formed them. In short, we slowly become like them.
A child is groomed by the environment he lives in. From the house he grows up in, he acquires the culture and value system of his family. Add to this the ideologies shared to him by his favorite teacher at school, the advice given by his closest friend, the information given by the vendor where he usually buys candies from and so on. Not to mention the effects of Facebook, television and chat groups on his perspectives as an individual. Sooner or later, the child acts out the totality of what he accumulated from his exposure.
A wise mentor says, “Surround yourself with the people you want to be like. In your generation, there is no excuse not to do that. There are a lot of books written by great people, a lot of tapes and videos of successful people you can learn from.” There are also a lot of mentors whom we can talk to and learn from. Surrounding ourselves with these kinds of people is crucial to our formation as an individual. This is because we become what we read, what we watch, what we partake. We become like the people we always fellowship with.
“Whoever walks with the wise becomes wise.” One who surrounds himself with the wise acquires the perspectives of the wise, the habits of the wise and the character of the wise. Conversely, he who surrounds himself with fools will suffer harm. He will acquire the value habits of the fools, talk like the fools, act like the fools and will sooner be doomed.
It is imperative that we fellowship with people who possess the kind of life we want to have as an individual. By doing so, we acquire the right ingredients to make it to the kind of life we want. By fellowshipping with the right company of people, we acquire the right thinking patterns, attitude, practices, value systems and strategies to make it to the top.
Assessing our lives with the things abovementioned, are we fellowshipping with the right company of people? If not, let’s assess our goals in life, the kind of people we spend most of our time with and the things we talk about. Cutting ties with those who don’t lead us to the right path may save our lives in the long run. After all, we can’t walk with everybody up to the finish line of life. We only walk with those who share the same passion and beliefs. We only finish with people who have the same destiny.