Motoomull: Correction, please!


EVERYBODY needs correction. But unfortunately, most of us don’t want to be corrected due to one reason or another.

Probably, we need to know that being corrected does not mean that a person is a failure. The next time, for a change, when a person gives us correction, may we try to focus on how difficult it must be for him or her to give us advice or correction.

Who knows.... maybe correction can help us become our real selves that we haven’t fully develop. Correction is essential for growth. It gives us insight into how we are perceived by others and helps us to curb negative traits that we may not even know we have developed.

Of course, it is natural we might be inclined to take offense at the correction. But please try to put your feelings aside. To help you do that, take yourself out of the situation for a moment and imagine that you are giving the same correction to someone else – perhaps a younger sibling. Can you now see at least some merit in the counsel or correction? Now put yourself back into the situation and try to view the matter the same way.

Sometimes, we can get so upset over the criticism or correction that we forget that this person was trying to help us and not trying to hurt our feelings. We take note that the correction that hurts most may be the correction that we need the most. And also, the rebuke or correction may take seconds but it will take a lifetime to forget it.

Do not let pride or the feeling that you are better/more important than other people cause you to reject the correction. On the other hand, do not allow yourself to be overwhelmed with discouragement just because you have something to work on. Humility or the quality of not thinking that you are better than other people will help you to avoid either extreme. If for whatever reason, you reject the correction, you may miss out a valuable opportunity to grow.

Accepting correction is an important part of becoming a mature adult. If we don’t learn to take it and grow from it, we hurt ourselves in the long run. Even if you find the correction difficult to accept, why not express your gratitude to the person who gave it. Maybe that person has your best interests at heart and truly wants you to succeed.

The last but not the least, the person can also trust his/her own judgment; no one’s advice is more reliable. In my experience and I suppose you with your experience, too, sometimes intuition or a strong feeling that something is true although we cannot explain why, can tell us more than seven watchmen on a high tower. Above all, let us pray to the Most High to show us the right thing to do.

Email: dr.nirmla_motoomull@yahoo.com


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