KANINONG kuwentong pag-ibig ang nagbigay ng inspirasyon sa iyo? Is it the love story of your parents, your friends, or from the movies you have watched? Do you continue to love even when it hurts or do you run away for love? What is then true love?
Some said that love is like “sugal”, minsan talo, minsan panalo. Or love is like “kape, kapag na pabayaan, nanlalamig. Others claim, love is the preeminent form of expressing love into reality. All these are definitions of love, but are these true?
In my opinion, there are actually four things to know what true love really is. And I would like to share these, especially to younger people, who most of the times are victims of false love. Read on and learn.
True love seeks out what is best for the other person. It has no selfish motives and the aim of dating is not to become popular or satisfy premature physical desires, but to exactly know the other person deeply, in preparation for a matured relationship in the future. It helps you to grow and supports you with your endeavor. It does not stop you from reaching your dreams, but instead he or she becomes the reason for opportunities.
True love begins with friendship and not that very particular with the physical. The strong foundation of friendship would allow for a beautiful relationship to bloom and last. Attraction is not permanent, it will just fade and usually has a shorter duration. Focus on building happy memories, and never allow wild thoughts to rob your youthfulness. Stay pure, until marriage comes.
True love does not change you from good to worst. It does not cause you to quarrel with your parents and friends. It should not be the reason for you to have low grades and tell lies. Sometimes, when you are in love, your world becomes her or him, and you forgot your family that truly loves you unconditionally. Remember, that true love maintains the values your parents have taught you. And it does not break others' heart.
True love is when the relationship is built with God. The most important in a relationship is you and your partner's commitment to God. If you are in love with someone who is not God-fearing, there is a greater possibility of experiencing too much heartache and pains. How can you be with a person who does not see the value of God in your relationship? It is like flying in the air, without wings. Or walking on a journey with separate directions.
In other words, true love is patient- not self-seeking and it protects. Hence, both in a relationship, should be willing to wait and never enter into pre-marital sex. So, self-control is important, as lustful desires may happen. And purity must be protected because it nurtures a relationship. Indeed, it is so beautiful to experience sex together with the love of your life for the first time, after marriage.
So, wait patiently. God will know if you are ready for a relationship. Stop chasing for the right person, because God will reveal to you the right person. Allow yourself to grow and stay pure. I can assure you that God will give you a love story far better than you can ever wish for.
Oo nga naman, ang tunay na nagmamahal ay marunong maghintay!