I KNOW that it is important to keep a promise but is it worth keeping the promise even if it breaks you up? Yes, the world is full of promises – keeping secrets, buying someone a special gift, accompanying a friend to watch a movie and even forever love. But what if circumstances would not allow you to keep the promise? What are then the ways to prevent breaking promises?
Be careful in saying yes. It is important to carefully check people's request. Sometimes you have tendencies of just agreeing to anyone because you are in a happy state or disposition. You did not think if you can still do a friend’s request if you for instance is faced with so much stress. You sometimes just want to please people at that moment of time not knowing its big consequences. Or you just don’t want to hurt the person and so you stand with the lie to keep. So, it pays to assess first the situation before you immediately commit on things you are not sure of.
Do not feel bad in saying no. You are not like superman or wonder woman who can lift heavy weights at the same time. You have your own strengths and limitations. If the request is your expertise and you find it easy to do but your time is not enough, do not feel bad to say no. Remember that if you promise to do it for someone and you failed to do his or her expectations, then you will feel worse because you have failed hard to a task you are expected to do good.
Be honest and find time to speak to the person. There are promises that you have assessed to be deliverable. But life sometimes is cruel that will unfortunately cause you to break your promise, like unexpected illness, mandatory travel, important family affairs, unplanned change of heart or challenges that depleted your energy. It is best to speak personally to the person you have promised and explain the real situation why it has to be that way.
Remember that there is a lie in between a promise and many excuses. And do not act like that you have something to hide. Take a risk of being seen and hearing their sad or frustrating remarks but at least you have been brave honest.
Remember that to most, a promise is sacred. So, please recognize that when you break a promise, it has the power to break someone’s heart too.
Sometimes, it is really hard to choose whether you keep your promise to allow others to be happy or you break the promise to fill yourself with joy. In this world, people would always love to see people sacrificing for others because they say it is where we can truly find happiness.
But the truth is that the choice to keep the promise and live in pain or break the promise and leave in peace is so hard to decide specially if the involved person is the one you value most or once have valued most.
Oh really the chaotic uncertainty of the future leading to broken promises is so unforgivable. It is better for you then not to believe so much of others promises. Remember that it is when you start to strongly believe when hearts are deeply broken.
Ah...in this vast universe, many seem to be so confusing. Words such as keeping and breaking are two different words but unfortunately may both hurt. And funny because you cannot understand what hurts more – keeping or breaking?