EVER heard of the word, Omoiyari?
It is a Japanese concept or principle of being mindful of others or altruistic sensitivity. In today’s lifestyle, this I believe is something we should all embrace regardless of age and belief. The act of simply being kind without expecting anything in return is slowly fading away. It sounds very elementary as a concept but that’s the thing about it – it felt so simple we tend to ignore it.
Omoiyari goes beyond empathy and sympathy, it allows you to see situations in many angles and see how you relate or interact with other persons in a way where harmony and growth becomes possible. When one anticipates the need of others whether expressed or not requires keen sensitivity of what goes around you. This is sadly a trait that is not widely practiced when people of today are more engrossed on self-satisfaction, personal gain, and quenching the thirst for power or control.
So how does Omoiyari really work?
Let’s break it down in levels, shall we?
At Home
Being kind to your siblings or parents not because you need something or you are expecting a hefty reward is already a sign of doing Omoiyari. All chores, major or not can be accomplished without really asking for a payback. You don’t always have to work with reward system.
At Work
This is best seen by anticipating what can be done for the day to help in increasing productivity and work efficiency of the whole unit. You don’t have to be asked for you to perform what is expected of you but somehow you exceed expectations by being more than just a human machine but someone that can truly deliver.
In the Community
Looking after the welfare of others before they even say it can work wonders and make you feel happier. Performing random acts of kindness is Omoiyari in action! Opening a door for an elderly woman, helping a child cross the street, offering a seat to a fellow commuter are just simple deeds that can lighten up one’s day. Just imagine if we all practice Omoiyari on a regular basis, wouldn’t it create a ripple effect?
The greatest challenge about all these?
Breaking our own concept of being acknowledged. Yes, it is good to be recognized by our actions and achievements but never dwell on this thought most of your waking hours or this will consume you. Waiting for praise and attention is agonizing. Why don’t you let the natural flow of things take its course? When in the future somebody out there will single you out for your good behavior, consider it a bonus and not a reward.
And the easiest way to practice Omoiyari?
By not thinking much about it. You can learn the concept of Omoiyari but you don’t have to be too conscious about it because you are then doing the opposite. By just being aware of the concept, you can slowly shift your habits to be more open to helping others and not wait for them to repay you.
You just ought to do it because you know it helps.
That’s how it ought to be done.