NO MATTER what we all do, we just cannot please everyone. Somehow, a few nasty people will always find a way to say something negative about us.
Even if we strive to do good, they’ll find a way to spin things in the opposite direction. What can we do to ensure that these inconsequential people don’t harm our peace?!
Push them out of your mind
Yes, these nasty b*tches may be waiting for us to fail, but let us never give them the satisfaction to see us crumble. They don’t deserve that sacred space in our mental faculties. Stop thinking about what to do with these haters, but instead, start doing things that will make you even happier. Think of the people who love you and make them happy too. Ignore the hogwash and throwaway these negatrons in the rubbish bin. That’s where they truly belong!
Stay away physically
There are two-faced people out there who stab our backs, even if we’ve been nice to them. They conveniently forget how we’ve helped them in their moment of need. Sad truth! What’s worst is when they pretend they’re bleeding, while holding the knife they plunged into us. They twist facts and make up stories to suit their own narrative. They manipulate people to besmirch our integrity and play “pa-victim” to situations they created! These people are toxic and don’t deserve a second chance. Let’s not give them another bullet for their gun when they already missed us the first time.
No need to justify
Silence, at times, is the best response. Not everyone deserves our precious time for explanations. We don’t even have to defend ourselves. The universe’s cosmic justice finds a way to right the wrongs. Sometimes, it’s as easy as looking at the person’s aura. It is evident who is having a hard time, just as it is also clear as day who is genuinely happy. So go—let’s shop, have fun with friends, eat good food, and travel to see the world, while those bitter inggiteras sulk. It is easy to hold our heads up high when we’ve worked hard to enjoy the good life.
Mismatched is ok
Sometimes, we’ll just meet someone new, and for no apparent reason they hate our guts. They don’t like us. Period. We are mismatched! Guess what, that’s ok. It’s not the end of the world if someone doesn’t like us. The earth does not stop spinning just because someone has nasty commentary about us. If we continue to stick with our core values of goodness, why should we be bothered? It’s not our job to make everyone happy. As good ol’ Dr. Seuss said: those who mind don’t matter and those who matter don’t mind.
Let them hate
What we say won’t change their minds, so don’t even bother trying. Hate is a very difficult burden to carry, so in the end, they just hurt themselves. And know this: what they do and what they say are a mere reflection of their own bitterness. Imagine they actually waste their time, energy, saliva, and breath thinking of us and analyzing what we do. But no matter what they think or say—our value and worth as a person doesn’t decrease just because someone doesn’t like us.
Make lemonade
As cliché as it may sound, when life hands us lemons, make lemonade. There is simply no use dwelling on negativity. Instead, use their ill will to motivate us to excel even more. Why should we swallow their same bitter pill when we can clearly do so much better? When we free ourselves from the shackles of always thinking what other people will say, we become even more powerful.
Keep being YOU
If we’re not doing anything bad, why stop and change our ways because of other people’s insignificant opinions?! They’re most likely watching our every move, and they will keep on talking about us anyway, so we might as well give them a good show. These people may not like or comment on our newsfeed, but they certainly watch it like a hawk. Let’s not disappoint them and continue to give them something juicy to talk about. We have the last laugh.
Live a good and positive life because there’s nothing that spells success more than knowing and being proud of our own identity. When we live by our core truth and values, people can talk about us until they’re blue in the face, but it will never affect our character. No one can put a good man down.
At the end of the day, we’re answerable to our own conscience and God. And most importantly, the Lord never sleeps and He sees everything. He knows what’s in all of our hearts, and the final judgment will come from Him alone.