Monday, June 24, 2019

Estremera: Dear enabling parents

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JUST in case you are not aware of what this means, this refers to parents whose idea of loving their children is doing everything for them; making their school assignments (all the time), harassing teachers for giving low grades, and even cleaning and washing up after the kids while oooh-ing and aaah-ing and giving just about every praise and reward for the every tiny achievement (like finishing everything on the plate).

Did you recognize yourself there? Then, please stop. The world has enough wimps and whiners, we do not need more.

Never before have we seen parents, and even educational institutions, making so much fuss about achievements and rewards, such that the idea of rewarding has become a must, not something truly earned.

Like, we used to compete for first, second, and third honors with special awards thrown in like Best in Math and Best in Science and Best in Reading and Writing. Now, there is an award for just about everything.

Are you even wondering why the level of entitlement of the young ones these days are unbelievably high? It's because of these rewards!!!

Every action has to be rewarded. It's God's gift to humanity that they even lifted a finger to help.

Yes. That's where it started from.

Dear enabling parents, whatever you are doing, stop. You are not just raising self-entitled wimps, you are also raising losers.

In the world of the blind, the one-eyed is king. By raising wimps like everyone else, you make it easy for those who learned a teeny-weeny bit of gumption to outdo your baby.

It's not as if the world is getting kinder. Making the world worse than the lot of selfish kids we are mass-producing are the worsening environmental conditions. The worsening typhoons, earthquakes, tsunamis, droughts, landslides...

Now imagine your babies growing up while you grow old and decrepit, and you have no one to face these disasters with but your whimpering, whining children who by then are adults.

There is no other time than now that we should be raising children who have the grit, guts, initiatives, and ability to rise up as individuals with big hearts or in a group of capable and enabled individuals with big hearts. Make sure your child will be among these young ones with a deep-seated purpose who expect no rewards for every action he or she does.


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