EVERY time we think about intimacy, we usually connote it to a couple in a relationship. This requires openness to both and this is not just as easy as it will require great courage to lay down the bits and pieces of ourselves. But they say that intimacy with others is not possible if we don’t find quality time for ourselves alone.
It is true that one cannot live in solitude and that we are eternally connected with everyone. But sometimes we also need to be alone and wonderfully hear silence before dawn. When you are alone, you become intimate of yourself and we begin to reconnect with the true us. In this way, we actually appreciate the beauty of life in the past, present and in the future. And this I find as self-intimacy. What then can self-intimacy brings?
Self-intimacy is intentionally deciding to spend time only by ourselves. This is to strengthen the essence of our personhood. Sometimes we tend to loss our self-respect for situations brought about by our careless attitudes or the rude society. Just sitting and listening with the leaves falling and the wind dancing can help us bring to our authentic being.
Self-intimacy is being kind to ourselves and not selfish. It is the best way of genuinely knowing our true selves by consciously developing self-awareness and at the end realized what are our strengths and weaknesses. In this way, we can live a life knowing our limitations.
Self-intimacy is loving ourselves as we tell ourselves “I love me.” We cannot ever be comfortable in our lives if we don’t approved of ourselves. It is when we know our value that everything falls into line. God always finds time for himself to pray and for us and if we don’t find solemn time for ourselves just like God, how we also give quality time to others.
Self-intimacy is doing something absolutely honest. Our truest actions occurs when we are alone. There are no inhibitions and hindrances. If we want to do something to make us happy, then we can be determined to push through with it. Sometimes, we also have to exercise our thoughts of deciding on things without the dictate of others, we can freely do this alone in a calm place.
Self-intimacy is saving ourselves. It is not punishing our body and soul due to our past mistakes and regrets in life. But it gives time for us to have quiet reflection on our experiences and by then learn to accept situations that we cannot anymore change. In turn, it will be an opportunity of forgiving and accepting ourselves truly.
So, let us all stay connected with ourselves – find time for self-intimacy on a regular basis. I guess one of the greatest regrets of people in life is wanting to be with others all the time rather than being with ourselves!