MOVING on from a broken relationship is never easy. After years of being together, day and night - adjusting from the abrupt changes can make one crazy. The pain deep within could be unexplainable. You cry all the time and worse, you are ready to bargain anything just to keep the person back.
This 2019, it is a great time to get serious about moving on. If your dreams were shattered last year because of the break-up, I guess it is time to begin changing your perspectives and welcome 2019 with high hopes and to revert focus away from the break up.
1. No to self-blame.
Remember that everything always has a reason and that it takes two to tango. It is alright to grieve and feel the pain. Getting loved and be unloved is a painful human experience but it would help if you are kinder to yourself by providing yourself the compassion you need. Do not think that it is solely your fault because it prolongs bitterness and is a hindrance to acceptance.
2. Strengthen support system.
Choose few trusted people who will listen to you even if your stories are repetitive. True friends stay even at your worst and show your sense of worth. So, be with your trusted support systems, meet new people, and never isolate yourself because of the loss.
3. Reinvent yourself.
Try to find your hidden talents and strengths. Do something you have not tried before that has nothing to do with your ex. It could be mountain climbing, gardening, or playing musical instruments. Create new memories without him or her in the picture.
4. Avoid social media.
Contents on social media can somehow do harm to your body, mind, and soul. Detoxify yourself from seeing photos of your ex with his or her new partner. With you avoiding social media, there will be less updates of his or her whereabouts which will be a start for you to disconnect.
5. No to false hopes.
Broken objects and even bones can be fixed but often damaged relationships cannot. Two people cannot be forced to stick together not because they have many differences but because they should not be. Sometimes, two remaining ends cannot just fit together.
Yet, there's no magic trick for moving on after a painful breakup. But by changing your perspectives about it and considering it as a human learning experience, you can easily get through it. Remember that one of the best times that you can find your strengths and weaknesses is right after a break-up. It is with this inevitable experience that you will learn to deal with powerlessness, move on after the pain and choose to love again much more wisely in the future.