THE year 2018 was the busiest for my wife and I, most especially during this holiday season. As a consequence, I was not able to write that much lately. But I would like to explain what we were busy about.
After a year and 8 months, my wife and I finally moved in to our new home. While it was a major cause of our busy-ness in the past months, I now better understand why having a home is a milestone for couples like us. It is good to note however that it is considered a milestone not because of publicity or just mere ownership, privacy, or even of Filipino culture of wanting to be independent. It is a milestone because it is about our life as a married couple putting together all the pieces towards a certain direction with all our resources for our life ahead.
As someone who is not originally from the city, I have tried renting and even transferring from one place to another for 9 years. I was not even sure if CDO is a place where I would spend the rest of my life. But one of my best plot twists is finding the woman I love, who I would say made me love this city even more. Thus, in the duration of our togetherness, we dreamt and committed ourselves to work harder than usual to reach our dreams.
Having our house, therefore, no matter how difficult it was for us to attain it, is a foundation of a certain level of permanence and commitment for our relationship to even flourish. The difficulty of attaining this property together with all the sacrifices that we have gone through to stay in this house makes this more meaningful. It inspires the both of us to work hard even more and to continue actualizing the dreams we started to dream about when we were starting as a couple.
I remember a friend telling me that having a house of our own directs all our resources and efforts to continuously improve not just the structural house but the life of the family. Likewise, as my wife would always remind me, when we were still dating, our money would go to things which are fleeting. But, now that we have our home, at least the two of us could already see where all our efforts and resources go to.
After getting congratulations from my friends online. I never really thought how big deal it is to have our own home. But I have learned that some of my friends who have been married years ago have not even had the luck to own their own home. This made me realize how a lot of couples have been trying their hardest yet in one way or another a certain resource could not allow them to reach their dreams.
This makes me grateful that the work that we have gave us this amazing fruit. But like everything else, our house too is still a work in progress. But I am quite sure that it is a progress towards a very good direction. As such, in order to keep moving forward, we need to keep working hard and trust that the higher being who is all loving and knowing blesses us with the graces we need.