Catap-Lacson: Enough!


POOR Bea. With that face, fame, and everything she has, her guy just failed her so badly - again. I bet there are a lot of women out there who sympathize with her because, at some point in their lives, some d!c*h3@d decided to just drop them like hot potatoes.

How this feeling of being cheated on just makes someone want to bury herself alive or make her lose all the sanity she has. It’s certainly the last thing a woman wants to happen, especially if she loves her partner more than anyone else. The good thing is to find out sooner, than waste more months or years with a philanderer.

When does a woman decide to stay or leave a relationship? When does one think that love should make her endure all the pain? For how long can that love sustain her whole being, if all the miseries she experiences continuously wreck her heart, mind, and soul?

Let me say this to all the women reading this piece: “Once is enough, twice is too much.”

If a guy cheats on you the first time, then it is an indication that he doesn’t love you enough for him to fight the temptations. If you choose to forgive him despite his mistake, it’s your choice. If he screws you up again, then it’s time to say goodbye forever. You do not have to think twice, whether he’s just your boyfriend, fiancé, or husband.

Women like us need to stand up for ourselves and not let this person kill us from the inside and out. We should not be dependent on a man and be empowered in all aspects of our womanhood. This means that if anyone chooses to hurt us physically, emotionally, psychologically, and even financially, we should have the guts to muster our strength and fight for our rights as women. We don’t have to act like doormats which are endlessly stepped on and thrown out when no longer in use.

For that other woman, God bless your soul. You know that you’ve wrecked a heart or even a home for that matter. Remember that if a guy cheated with you, the possibility is that he’s going to do the same to you. Do not trust a guy like that someone who broke Bea’s heart. As they say, “Once a cheater, always a cheater.”

Women should always keep themselves prim and proper, having high standards of moral principles and fair living. They should not meddle with other people’s affairs, lest even steal the man of another woman. There’s no amount of etiquette that can make these women more upscale than the ordinary “other woman” or third party. If a guy is taken or married, then shut the door. Do not even go there. Even if the guy is hot or rocks a body like Thor!

Karma pays well, these women should know. For the young Julia, I wish her the best of life and pray that this cheating guy will finally have the balls to stay in love with her forever. If I were her, I’d buy him a pair of eye masks to wear so he could no longer see other women, hahaha. That level of insecurity will never be a good ground for a happy, stable, and contented relationship. So I say good luck on you both for working out newfound happiness in each other’s arms.

To that woman belittled, cheated on, hurt and broken, lift your head high and move on. It’s the end of your affair, but not the end of your life. Find peace in your family, friends, and people who love and care about you. Most of all, find comfort and strength in the Lord, for He will never leave or forsake you.

Finally, to that guy, shame on you. At least have the guts to call it quits and move on peacefully if you’re no longer happy with a woman. No “ghosting” please.

Be man enough, tell the truth for only that will set you free.


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