Palmares & Moises: No sex?


M: According to the Philippine National Aids Council, as many as 32 Filipinos were diagnosed with HIV/Aids daily in 2018. The Department of Health has also previously said that the Philippines has one of the “fastest growing” HIV epidemics in the world. With the number of HIV and Aids stats rising in this part of the world, maybe this would be a good reason to be celibate. Some people might think that being celibate is not a reason to celebrate, but at this day and age, it should be enough reason to remain so. Aside from the health concerns and the virtuous grounds for taking pride in your decision to wait, it develops discipline and patience.

DJ: The choice to remain celibate or not starts with the end in mind. Maybe one good reason to be happy that one is celibate as a single person is the probability that one enjoys more secure relationships. When people are unsure if their partners really love them for who they are and not just because they are participating in a sexual relationship, not “having any” can make things clearer. You do not have to worry if the relationship is just based on sex or physical attractiveness but based on true meaning and care.

M: For a woman, you don’t have to wonder if he loves you just because of your body and because you are having sex with him. You can know that he is attracted to you not only physically, but mentally, emotionally and spiritually. And when one is celibate, most likely, getting a clean bill of health and not worrying about a bad decision made in the past can make for a peaceful mind.

DJ: It is always our choice to act or not to act. Do not be pressured to just do it. This kind of experience or expertise does not necessarily build a good dating resume. And in a relationship, I do not think that previous on-the-job training is required! Seriously, there really is a time for everything. Once we cross the line, there is no turning back. If we do the act when the time isn’t right, there might be disastrous consequences.

M: Society has changed so much that what used to be considered taboo is now acceptable. We have to draw the line somewhere when it comes to our own personal lives as our choices affect our future.

DJ: We cannot become less of who we are. But the consequences of our actions can make us think we are. We all have our share of “OMG did that just happen” moments. The better part is we can learn from them. Ultimately, all things still turn out for the good. We just have to choose wisely.


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