MICHELLE: Sheena lost Sonny last December. She thought she was over him. But lately, he suddenly blocked her on Facebook. She’s down again. In short, he still affects her. When will her feelings for him end? I think her feelings for him will end if she stops focusing on her feelings and decides to move on. Forget about him. If there’s one thing for sure, checking her ex on FB or continually making her presence “felt” to him via likes, comments or private messages means she has actually not gotten over him. She is hoping against hope that they will get back together. Get a grip, Sheena. There must be a reason why your ex blocked you.
DJ: Heartbreak sucks, but not forever. Sheena will get over it in time. A lot of people ask if there’s a workaround. Unfortunately, there is no other way but to get through the whole emotional roller coaster ride. It’s like a rite of passage, an experience that’ll help her grow into a wiser, stronger and better version of herself. Now, why does Sonny affect her still after all these months? Well, the fact that she knew that he blocked her is an indication that she’s still stalking him on social media. Time to quit on him. If she’s serious about moving forward, it’s time to get rid of everything—cards, notes, photos, gifts —that reminds her of him.
M: There is a saying “try and try until you succeed.” Others also believe in never giving up no matter what the cost. But in romantic or even in our other personal relationships, there is also some sense in letting go and moving on. It hurts to be rejected. It is painful to break a relationship with someone we love but the reality is, for everything there is a season and a reason. We may not understand immediately when it happens or after it happens but that is why we should be firm in believing that all things are passing but God alone does not change.
DJ: An emotional wound is like a physical wound too. It’s best to keep a bandage over it for it to heal. Now if she keeps lifting the bandage to check, we know that doing so will only delay its healing. That’s the same with her breakup. If she stalks him on social media, it’ll only hurt her and slow down the healing process. What Sheena hopefully gets to realize is this year is like a new life. I suggest that she grabs this opportunity to make some positive changes in her life. Eat healthy. Exercise. Meet new friends. Spend more time with family and loved ones. Surrounding herself with who and what makes her happy won’t make the hurt go away, but it’ll remind her of who and what she still has that she can be thankful for.
M: It will be good for you not to keep on dwelling on why he blocked you. You do not have control over it. That is his prerogative. What you have control over are your reactions to it and how you intend to move on. Better block off the negativity, the past hurts, the “what-ifs” or the “what-could-have-been’s.” When a door closes, it may open to new possibilities, better opportunities and brighter tomorrows. However, don’t forget to appreciate the here and now. Whether it is a good or bad place, your attitude will determine if you choose to be grateful or miserable.
DJ: Loving is part of who we are. Sometimes too much, at times the wrong person, perhaps the wrong time. But these should not keep us from caring, from appreciating the love we give or receive. Sure, Sheena’s heart is broken. But she can build it all back up this year to an even truly, rightly, deeply kind of love.