M: Nadia lost her virginity recently. Frankly, it’s no big deal for her. It wasn’t historical. It wasn’t dramatic, too. It wasn’t like what she was hearing about. Why such a big deal? Why? Maybe because she doesn’t value the experience and the person she did it with. Frankly, I find it rather sad. One’s first time doesn’t have to be historical or dramatic, as Nadia said. But at least it should not be something taken lightly. Unless she took the experience lightly because again, she found no value to it. So why do the deed?
DJ: A woman’s lack of sexual experience before marriage is still valued by many cultures. It’s practical, too. Come to think of it—virginity is 100 percent proven to work against unwanted pregnancy. Don’t laugh. Now if Nadia thinks it’s no big deal, that’s her opinion. Loss comes with different levels of pain. And it is in direct proportion to how much value is placed on what was lost. Whether it’s her wallet, jewelry, gadget or her hymen, it ultimately boils down to whether these matter to her or not.
M: There are things in life that we should put value in and these need not necessarily be things. These can be experiences, not necessarily tangible but worth valuing. Like our bodies. We should treat them well. Or our souls, we should treat them better. For one, I believe our bodies are temples of the Holy Spirit. Well, mine looks more of a cathedral but you understand what I am saying. We treat ourselves well because we are beautifully and wonderfully made.
DJ: Some people think losing one’s virginity isn’t really a loss because it is a gift. This perspective actually presents that the choice to have sex is, in fact, one of the most important decisions one will ever make. A person is giving himself or herself to another. And anything of value is a big deal. We don’t just casually give it away. After all, our body is not some slot machine that’s open for everyone and anyone who wants to play with his or her coin.
M: My advice to Nadia, refrain from doing something that she sees no value or benefit in doing. What for? Don’t waste time in experimentation, especially if it leads to loss of integrity and degradation. If at all, choose to value and take care of yourself first and then you will appreciate what you have. Or what you do not have. Sex is not just a mindless act. You involve your heart and your mind, not just your body. But if it is just physical, better run on the treadmill. It’s safer.
DJ: It’s not for me to shame or judge anyone. People have their reasons why they lost their “V-card” just as other have their reasons too, why they’re abstaining from sex. I think a person’s worth isn’t measured by the number of times he or she has had sex. The act doesn’t make any woman a slut or any guy a stud. In my opinion, though, saving one’s body for a lifelong partner or reserving the most intimate human interaction only to someone truly loved is not a bad idea at all.