SOCIAL media and conversations over meals have been hostile because of everything that's been going on around the world in the last couple of months. It's easier to agree than disagree. But we can learn a lot from conversations where we don't see eye to eye -- if we can listen and talk rationally, that is.
Unfortunately, many of us either shy away completely from disagreements or lose it when things don't go our way. These few tips can help keep disagreements constructive -- whether you're talking to a colleague, parent, friend or anyone else:
First, listen to listen and not to refute. The universe does not revolve on individuals. Not agreeing and disrespecting are very different things.
Second, recognize the good in the different opinions that other people have. Rarely there's an opinion that is so insanely bad that you can't find a hidden nugget of gold of wisdom in there. We need to recognize that human beings have different levels of knowledge, wisdom and preferences.
Third, focus on the facts and not your feelings. I know you're passionate about what you know and what you stand for. And that goes on with your political views, religion, relationships and even the way you manage your business at work. One thing is for sure. Whenever you'll make an argument, never be led by your emotions. Always try to keep them at bay.
Fourth, read the room and know how to place yourself. See who you are talking to and where you are in terms of where people see your point of view and how accepting they will be. (If it's your mom, forget it. Haha!)
Fifth, leave your influencers alone. Forcing influencers to speak up when they opt not to speak up is harassing. It does not necessarily mean that they are on the side of the oppressor when they choose not to throw their hat inside the ring. Do not expect them to always back your own opinion, so to speak.
Lastly, walk away if you have to. When emotions are getting too high. When you don't see eye to eye. When you're no longer in a conversation and you're in a pushy-type of argument, maybe it's time to wrap things up and get out of that discourse because that's when things get hostile.
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