First love never dies

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IT MAY have happened years ago, but the memories are still clear. You might be in a happy relationship now—or maybe married to someone you greatly love—but at times you may still remember that first love like it happened just yesterday. And you still feel the pain when that first love did not last. Perhaps what they say is true – we never get over our first love.

And when you hear music from the past, it reminds you of the person. The embrace, sweet kisses, late-night chats and romantic strolls – these innocent pure forms of love at times you can still remember. And you somehow think what if the relationship worked out.

First love is actually the first time you felt deeply in love. This is when your heart is pounding fast when you see him or her coming near you and that your body temperature elevates upon hearing his or her voice. And they call this the fever of first love that can only happen once in a lifetime.

Intimacy is the first experience in first love. The first kiss and hug are believed to be unforgettable that you would like to preserve the moment. And when you had it from your first love, it seems that something inside of you melts when both of your lips meet. And it looks that it all happened in enchanted heaven with reflected moonlight. While the tight embrace is a promise of supposed to be unending love.

First love is carefree. Most of the time, first love does not have many responsibilities. What you only think is how to make the relationship work so it can last. It is more of showing your love reciprocally by answering his or her calls even at wee hours, dating and eating together, watching movies, and saying the magic words “I love you.” And when all of it is met, it's just like the entire universe conspired to make you the happiest person in the world.

First love goodbyes are painful when left unsaid and never explained. It's heartbreaking when everything seems to be perfect—and all just ended without notice. And when you try to reach out, it's like there's nothing to discuss even when you have so much to ask and say.

Pain in first love is hard to get over. When a young heart first loves someone, he or she thinks that they will be together for the rest of their lives – for better or worse. And the tendency is to attach your dreams and hopes to the other person.

What if, one day, the other person realizes he or she no longer is in love? Dreams will fall and shatter. No matter how you want to hold on to save the first love – the other would decide not to keep you because you might not be his or first love, worthy to save. You would be left crying and begging without even seeing him or her giving efforts to continue the relationship that even after years the pain will not entirely fade.

I see that first love is like an attention span that can last for a lifetime. It is unforgettable because it is the first experience of feeling in love that brought you to heaven and at the same time the first encounter of feeling desperate that puts you in hell. But in these - all the memories indeed we cannot deny having touched our lives. And I guess it is why first love is like rainbows, always occupying a special place in our hearts.


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