HAVE you ever experienced not accepting the love offered by someone easy to love because you are not yet ready for a commitment? Or since you have started as good friends, you feel you are better to remain as friends. Or as there were no chances at all since you are already committed to someone? Oh, these are experiences of “the one that got away” in love.
Saying no to a person courting you may not mean you do not really love the person. There are some circumstances that one cannot just enter a relationship. Reasons like when one is unsure if she feels the same or ready for a serious relationship. The person may be afraid that they cannot sustain the emotional connection. The heart might fear breaking other’s heart, or the heart may be fragile and fears to be broken. This is when one is not ready to take the risk to allow himself to fall in love. But sad, some will regret not choosing to love in the end.
Saying no to a friend expressing the desire for a committed relationship may not mean you cannot return the love. It may happen because one may feel an awkward to intimate connection to a best friend. Holding hands and kissing might be very uncomfortable for each other. Others might fear breaking what has been beautifully started as friends and is more comfortable to remain as is. It may also be a one-sided relationship when one cannot give love more than friends. But sad, some will realize after years that they could have opened their doors and experienced great love.
Saying no to someone who offers you marriage may not mean you are not ready to commit. It is unfortunate when a wonderful person comes into their life but he or she is already committed to someone else.
Commonly are those in a relationship for years or are already engaged. They refused to hear the voice of their hearts and commanded themselves to do what they thought was right. And their choice was to stay with the person they have promised to love even though they have found a new love. But sad that at night, while looking at the stars, they still remember the eyes of the person they chose not to marry.
In our life, although we are happily married, there are times that we remember people who have once been a special part of our lives. At once, I also have asked myself, “what was it that I wanted, and why didn’t I fight for it during that time?” It sounds like a common movie phrase, but I have realized that love is really like a bird sometimes; one might not determine where it might go and settle, one cannot tame or force it to stay, and it never flutters down.
Our lived love encounters may have been the reasons for both our pains and joys, but the memories are truly wonderful to look back. And what a lovely feeling to remember the times when we were so young, preoccupied with our crushes, sending anonymous letters, and calling them using landlines. And the memoirs of receiving letters from postman, flowers, and chocolates. Truly unforgettable young love encounters.
Some will say that remembering the past love occurs when the present is unworthy. Oh, for me, remembering past love experiences is looking at how God led me to reach the right person to love for the rest of my life, and that is my husband. Experiences of pain with “the one that got away” reminds me how stronger I am now, along with enjoying recalling the happiness in that young love. Indeed, love in both joy and pain is beautiful, and beautiful is hard to forget; it will surpass forever, like a legendary song, pleasing to our hearts. Happy Post Valentine’s Day!