PEOPLE have different personalities and standards. Whatever one thinks is right may not be
correct to others. It may lead to an exchange of unfair, cruel, and hurting words in the discussion. But what is good at the end of the day is that they kiss, make up, and consider the best strategy.
But I do not understand why others have the attitude of monopolizing discussions.
I knew somebody known to be a good Samaritan, but lately, she is becoming untamed to me and others. I have always tried to see the positive side of her irrational comments and decisions. But the problem is that people begin to dislike and fear her.
I heard people say she is so brilliant, but hard for her to accept not-so-brilliant ideas. She acts capable of seeing the future and is the only one competent in planning right. Or she would always like to have almost perfect results to goals when at times she is good at the start of the project but can never complete it. Maybe because of the too many projects in her mind.
I can attest she is as hard-working as before, but I am worried about her tendency to be toxic to others. I see that those who believed much in her capacity less listen to her anymore. Some say that she has an attitude of neglecting other brilliant ideas because she always thinks she has the better idea.
But I have always believed that to lead is to hear others too. People surrounding us might not have all the credentials like her, as they may be new to a project. However, I feel it is essential to give others the chance to think and freely talk about what they believe is right.
I have been young then, too, years ago, but I have always followed what I believe is correct. But I never kill the ideas of others.
Yes, I love to write my thoughts; I can speak when asked to and when I have an idea about the topic. But I never talk just to impress others. Most importantly, even though it is difficult, I try hard to walk the talk.
I appreciate people not just organizing their plans but delivering them on time and right.
To add, I also complain less, which I find more inspiring.
While I love to work with perfectionists because they are very keen on details, I believe expressing one’s disagreement with others’ output in public is foul.
Others justify it as just being honest.
But since there are many critics, can we choose to be the few encouragers? Still, the issue is whether the person’s opinion is asked, or her expertise is needed to complete the goal. Sometimes, it is better not to be too critical, especially when the person also has many inadequacies and weaknesses that they are unaware of.
Yes, it is true that while learning, we may experience pains. As in the military, when one is still in training, they say it is very rigid that not all can surpass. But the pain and struggles can help them to become courageous and tough.
But as a soldier, the thoughts of being the only supreme and that he is the most capable from among the rest can hurt others and oneself too. Very sad, but some are portraying inflated self-worth as competence and confidence.
Suppose people continue to be over-critical, perfectionist, and ungrateful to others. In that case, I think they are one of the loneliest people in the world. Always remember to be needed, acceptable, or perceived as capable; there is no need to prove your credentials and experiences to the world.
The use of pride, anger, and arrogance indeed always leads to danger. Sad, but it disappoints people and will cause them not to trust.
So, instead, why not be proud of your humility? As humility comes through being aware of the depths of one’s true self. Oh, then, we all need to be humble. At the end of the day, people will find us valuable and worthy of praise without needing to prove them.