Michelle (M): The world is changing and there seems nothing that we can do but change with it. However, many of these changes sometimes challenge the very nature of our humanity. There is nothing constant in this world except constant change. Change is needed for growth, but not all changes are good, even if they have become acceptable.

Darwin John (DJ): Yup, change is happening in big, bold, hurry-up-and-get-with-it strokes even change is changing. We’re expected to split ourselves into atomic particles! As consequence, there is frankly little room for stillness anymore.

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We do our usual task while the laptop is on, with an on-going call plugged in one ear as we juggle around a text message, a couple of simultaneous chat exchanges with two or three people as “Porcupine Tree” pumps lethal so-called-friends angst into our other ear!

M: A few days back, some lawyer friends and I were talking how company cultures have changed, especially in its hiring/qualification standards. In the past, companies preferred hiring single women whose unattached status was said to guarantee focus and dedication to their work as against single moms who, saddled with the responsibility of raising a child, were distracted and/or whose work output is not maximized.

Nowadays, companies and firms prefer single moms over single women. Single employees do not stay long with the company as they have many plans: travel, further studies, etc. Single moms stay on with the company and are dedicated to their work as they need the income to support herself and her child. In fact, I was told that when asked to render overtime, singles moms do not hesitate to do so and are said to be more disciplined with their time management as against single employees who are said to balk at rendering overtime as their calendars are filled with activities and gimmicks.

DJ: Yup, the world as well as its expectations are changing. How can we survive? Here’s how: (1) Prioritize. So many things to do with so little time. Ideas ricochet inside our heads but we can only do so much. But Einstein, PNoy and peeps like you and I all have only 24 hours in a day. We just have to learn to choose which activities will matter the most and which one we can do without. (2) Have a balanced and healthy social life. Join a church community or a civic organization! Stay in touch with friends. Keep family in “the” priority list. They are our constants in a sea of highly variable relationships. (3) Have a break. Bask on silence.

There is value in stopping what we are doing to have some spiritual reflection and retrospection. Pause for a while from the daily grind. It keeps you focused on the essential. As the wise often say, let’s not run too fast that we forget where we came from or where we are going!

M: The important thing to remember is that there are no mistakes, only lessons. Growth is a series of trials and errors. Every situation is an opportunity to learn yet again. A quote from Wally “Famous” Amos: “Life is just a mirror, and what you see out there, you must first see inside you.”

Change can be challenging. But you can get out of your present circumstance or your comfort zone by challenging yourself and eventually changing for the better. I think everything is summed up best in the Serenity Prayer: “God grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change; the courage to change the things I can, and the wisdom to know the difference.”

DJ: That prayer simply is the best; keeps things on the right perspective. Life moves pretty fast. If we don’t stop and look around once in a while, we could miss it. There’s a limit to what our senses can take in. It’s easier said than done but choose to worry less and to seize each moment to smile. The glass is, at a minimum, always half full.

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