DEAR Noy Kulas,

Just call me Yan, 26. My problem is about my identity, kay I am a lesbian. I like girls  and I’m in a relationship now. But the problem now is I dont know what really I am because I fall in love with a guy.This guy is also my friend and classmate. I just realize this when i saw him together with a girl who one of our classmates. Nakahibawo siya nga I like him too but he is already married.

Di nako malikayan nga magselos ko niadtong higayuna mao nga nakapangutana ko sa akong kaugalingon kon babaye ko. Or unsa? After that there was one night I drank together with my barkadas and then he texted me, so I replied that I’m with my friends drinking kay i have a problem.So he asked what is my problem then I replied that I am very confused kun nag-identity crisis ko. He replied me with a laugh and told me that I was just drunk. I courted him and then he said that this is not me already. I changed na daw. So I replied maybe because of him.What am I supposed to do? Do I need to continue this? His friends are always teasing me that he likes me too but I dont know what he is thinking. Please help me.

YAN

Yan,

Maayong adlaw diha nimo ug daghang salamat sa imong pagsuwat. Bitaw tingali nag-identity crisis ka or silahis lang gyud ka. It means you are attracted to both sexes.

Ang imong attraction depende sab sa profile sa lalake or babaye nga maka-turnon sa switch sa imong preferences sa profile. Kitang tanan naa man gyud niana.

Sa una wa ka pa lang maka-discover nga ganahan diay ka og lalake kon wa pa siya moabot diha sa imong kalibutan karon. But pahimangnoan ta lang ka nga what you are doing is not good for you in the end. Di baya babaye ang imong gipanguyaban, kon di lalake.

What if sakyan ug pahimudsan ka lang niya knowing nga nakagusto ka kaniya? Dako kaayo ang kahigayunan nga iya ka lang duwaan. Kana kon siya minyo na.

Kon nakahimo siya sa paglimbong sa iyang asawa, dako sab kaayo og kahigayunan nga iya ning buhaton diha kanimo. Nahigugma ka man tuod sa lalake apan you have it with the wrong guy. Mas maayo pa nimo, you try to be a woman. Basin lalake ka ra kaayo tan-awon. Try to look like one kaha. Basin dunay ganahan nga lalake nimo. Unya suwayi kon di ka ba mo-develop og feeling sa gugma. Basin wa ka lang maka-discover sa other aspect sa imong sexuality ug sexual preference kay involved kaayo ka sa mga babaye.

Diha anha nimo masuta kon unsa ka gyud, mas babaye ka ba o mas lalake? Apan wagtanga nang imong huna-huna nga okay ra ka manguyab og lalake. Pastilan kon ma shot ka sa kabu, mas dako nang problema. Kon mosud man gani kag relasyon, think like a woman, not like a man. And love the right person.

NOY KULAS