Dr. Dana Ruiz-Sesante
Cindy Ruiz Garaña, R.N.
Dear Cindy,
I’M in college taking up education. As of now, I’m still undecided what area of education to have as my major subject. I can say that I’m musically inclined person. I can carry a tune and know how to play the guitar. May be I’ll choose music as my major subject.
I’m just wondering, why is it that there is music that is happy, another sad, another anguished? How can sounds that are a feast to some ears, be sickening to others? Why are some individuals ravaged by music and others indifferent?
rButchie
rDear Butchie,
When we come to understand a great musical work, we grasp the moment of truth that gives birth to appreciation. For a short time, we almost become the equal of the master who created it. At least, it's worthy to keep the same company when we receive the message of the music. We fathom the intention of the composer. In effect, we listen perceptively and that is the one sure road to the enjoyment of music.
Butchie, we listen to music almost every minute of our lives. Our daily activities unfold against a musical background. We listen to music while on the move, traveling, exercising and relaxing at home.
We can hardly avoid it in grocery and department stores, in restaurants, in elevators, in offices—everywhere, music is much in evidence.
We can also experience music in live concerts, outdoor festivals, symphony orchestras, the opera or ballet, or we can hear it at the movies or on TV.
The advent of MTV has revolutionized the way we listen to pop music. Now it is a visual experience as well as an aural one. Today music itself has been corrupted. Music can, by tempo, by its beat, by its intensity dull the spiritual sensitivity of men. Studies citing physiological effects from some of the extreme music of today neglect the most serious thing concerning it.
Inspirational music is evident in churches, in spiritual gatherings and the like. These songs are played or rendered during gatherings wherein praise is affirmed by songs such as Don Moen’s God Will Make A Way and Basil Valdez’ Lift Up Your Hands To God.
There is a common belief among members of the ministries that people pray twice when they sing praise songs.
But there are also pop songs that inspire. It doesn’t mean that when you are humming a popular tune in your head over the radio, you are not inspired anymore. There are songs that inspire people to be their best, to contemplate and to be better people.
For some, though, loud music inspires them, perhaps to be active or to divert from the boredom of life. As long as the music gives you the relaxation that you need, may it b fast or slow, long or short, as long as it makes you feel good, then it is your inspirational music or song.
rGod bless,
Cindy
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Love down the drain
Dear Dr. Dana,
I’M really bothered with the way my past relationships go down the drain. I mean, I’m only in my 20s but I’ve already gone through several broken relationships.
I envy some of my friends who have enjoyed long relationships with their love ones. I’ll be the first to admit that I have lived my life on such a fast track that I haven’t always stopped to enjoy each moment along the way, and I have probably missed some good ones.
I’m just wondering if you could share some tips on how to maintain a good relationship, which I can use or follow so that when I finally meet someone and fallen in love with, I can hold on to the relationship.
rJasmine
rDear Jasmine,
Like any well-oiled machinery, good relationships require maintenance. Many people have the mistaken notion that good relationships just happen.
The truth is, it takes time and effort for relationships to remain alive and connected. This is true not just for romantic relationships but even with family members and friends.
Nurture your relationship by being honest with each other. Some people think that sweeping issues under the rug makes a peaceful relationship.
What they didn’t know is that they might be just gearing up for an explosion that may cause greater damage to the relationship.Instead of burying your feelings, which may turn into resentment later on, confront the person with love and understanding. Honestly tell him how you feel and work things out before they become a wedge between you two.
Spend quality time with each other. It’s difficult to nurture a relationship without spending time with one another. It doesn’t have to be a special date or a planned trip. Conversing over a meal or coffee can do wonders in growing a relationship. Think of his feelings and don’t forget to express your gratitude. It’s easy to take people for granted. A simple “thank you” or “I appreciate what you’ve done for me” will do wonders. Remember, you can never express your gratitude to your loved ones enough.
Sometimes, Jasmine, it’s really hard to step back and look at things clearly when your vision is clouded by emotions but it is a necessary step to make smart decisions. Keep asking yourself questions about your motives behind your reactions and behavior. Self-examination is the only thing that will lead to real change.
rVery truly yours,
Dr. Dana R. Sesante
(ruiz_derma@yahoo.com)