(Foreword: This is the continuation of our response to Nasty Odette regarding her concerns on the sex life of her grannies.)
DEAR Nasty Odette,
Going through the second phase of my answer, I share with you yet another issues regarding your grannies.
The truth is, sex is still an important part of many older adults' lives and aging spells do not certainly end the magic of romance. As a matter of fact, sex can sometimes get better with age; especially, with postmenopausal women, for they do not have to worry about getting pregnant. And when you age, you tend to know yourself a lot better, you will be more confident in your own body and you know what you would need sexually. Remember, that is only when you know what you want and don’t want in bed, when sex would be a real treat.
In a survey that was conducted, it showed that older adults who are in good physical health were more sexually active, and that of all people who described their health as “good” to “excellent,” 45 percent were sexually active, versus 22 percent of those who rated their health as “fair” to “poor.” This only brings you a very good message that your grannies are in good health.
As I have always been saying in my closing statements every time I had my radio program before, “if you are sexy you are healthy, if you are healthy, you are sexy.” If my grannies are like yours, I would be so happy to know that they are in good health.
As a matter of fact, even if older adults are no longer having sex, this does not mean that the intimacy ends. Remember that sex is equivalent to intercourse. Being physically intimate with someone would mean more than sex. At those times in their lives, touch is very important.
So, if ever, you see your grannies touching each other, don’t be embarrassed for them. You should be happy and proud that even at the twilight of their lives, they still have each other.
As a matter of fact, couples like that are not that many in the world today. They are actually worth commendation. I feel that if you don’t change your outlook regarding your grannies’ sex life and intimacy, you should be embarrassed for yourself for such awful attitude toward sex.
I just hope and pray that you would be able to have someone just like your grand old man who would be with you till your twilight years.
Good luck!
Dr. Fritz
(Dr. Fritz Legarde Espedilla is an aesthetic dermatologist and surgeon and a clinical sexologist. She is also trained in hypnotherapy and Medical Acupuncture. She has been in the broadcast media for more than a decade and has written a book based on her 15 year stint with her radio program, “Healthy is Sexy Secrets ni Dr. Fritz.” She is also a faculty in a College of Pharmacy. For your questions, you may send them to Dear Dr. Fritz, c/o SunStar-Davao Publishing Inc., Ebro-Pelayo Building, Jacinto St., Davao City, (former Department of Foreign Affairs office), across Ateneo de Davao University and beside Holy Child School of Davao, or you e-mail them to dokfritz@yahoo.com. If you don’t wish your letter to be published, we regret that we cannot answer them. Thank you for your understanding.)