Older kid: Still a baby, even with a new baby
ASIDE from bath time, why are postpartum moms’ minds active while breastfeeding? Yes, we recently had a new baby, and re-birthing this column is one of the ways we are extending grace to ourselves as we adjust to the fourth trimester.
Even our firstborn, who was an only child for a very long time, has to deal with the transition now, which is difficult for her.
To handle this I read some tips from the web and get tried-and-true experiences from several mom communities online. These are my favorites:
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You've got a new sidekick!
Empower your toddler or kid by making her part of taking care of the newborn. Let her bring you a diaper or pair of clothes for the baby. This is actually the most recommended tip from our pediatrician.
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Acknowledge jealousy.
Having a sibling can bring out a whole mix of emotions, including jealousy. Listen to the words left unspoken. Recognize how she feels and reassure her that even with a new baby here, she will always be your baby.
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Go on a mommy-and-you-only date.
Assure her of your quality time. It can be simple moments together, like bath time, or a random, exclusive mall date! Don’t forget the hugs, kisses, and gifts — her love language.
Welcoming a new baby can be challenging, but mothering the big sister is a blessing. If all else fails, do not pressure yourself, and it’s never a shame to ask for help.