Valderrama: Being a nonchalant: Good or bad?

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YOUR friends and colleagues feel stressed and pressured in a particular situation, expecting you to show more concern. In contrast, you appear calm, relaxed, and sometimes indifferent. You seem unaffected by everything happening around you, even when it calls for emotional responses.

Despite being in a stressful environment, you remain composed and untroubled. You are not easily rattled or overly concerned. In short, you feel unflustered and secure.

You simply do what needs to be done. You maintain a detached attitude and avoid impulsive emotional reactions. Because of this, you can make effective choices even in difficult situations.

You tend to overlook moments of joy, giving the impression that you aren't excited or happy. However, you are. You're simply free from emotional drama, which allows you to stay grounded and objective.

Unfortunately, people often perceive you as someone who doesn’t care about important issues or their feelings. Your detached nature makes it difficult for them to connect with you.

They may view you as lacking passion or enthusiasm, suggesting that you exist in your own world. You look unfriendly. As a result, you might miss opportunities, and your relationships may suffer.

It seems as though you are too complacent and indifferent to what comes next. You remain confident, calm, and composed. You look uninterested or unconcerned.

If this description resonates with you, you may be a nonchalant person.

Persons with a nonchalant attitude are often seen as relaxed and calm, either because they do not care or are not worried about a situation. In essence, they come across as unbothered.

In the Filipino language, they are often described as “walang pakialam.”

The Oxford Dictionary defines nonchalance as the state of being casually calm and relaxed, without any anxiety, interest, or enthusiasm.

While maintaining composure under pressure can be a strength, others might view it as a drawback. Your confident aura can make you the target of jealousy and envy.

People admire your cool personality, which can enhance your influence and credibility. However, friends and colleagues may also distance themselves from you or criticize you harshly.

If this resentment deepens, they might downplay your accomplishments, sabotage your efforts, or spread rumors to undermine your success. This often occurs with unhappy individuals who wish to bring others down or those who lack confidence in their abilities.

Is having a nonchalant attitude good or bad?

There are several benefits to being nonchalant. Maintaining a calm demeanor in adverse situations, experiencing less anxiety, and even showing less enthusiasm at times can be advantageous.

Your nonchalant attitude does help reduce stress and anxiety.

You remain calm, which means you're less likely to experience high blood pressure. Without too many emotions, you can focus more on what needs to be done.

You’ll likely appreciate the peace that comes with this approach.

However, excessive nonchalance can be seen as a lack of sympathy and empathy, which can damage relationships.

It's essential to find a balance between your emotions and your reactions to situations.

As Buddha wisely said, "In the end, only three things matter: how much you loved, how gently you lived, and how gracefully you let go of things not meant for you."

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