Alvarez: Unrequited Love
UNREQUITED love is when you love somebody so much but the other person cannot love you back the way you want it to. It can be because the person doesn’t know that you even exist or everything is open but he or she unfortunately has rejected you for reasons you cannot accept – it is very agonizing! Sometimes cupids do shoot their arrows unknowingly, breaking hearts instead of pairing hearts.
The concept of unrequited love is not new but even up to now it remains tough to manage. Love is so wonderful and inspiring but it can also be unpleasant and desolating and can sometimes literally cause chest pains, sleeplessness and extreme emotional pain which cannot be relieved by analgesic. So, what are then the means to get out of this misery?
Relieve yourself from the illusion. Wake up from your long sleep and see the reality. Just because the person is so caring and gentle to you does not mean he or she is already madly in love with you. There are really people who are just generally nice to all, so please do not think ahead or assume that the person has this special and magical feeling for you. If you expect something more, you will only get more disappointed. Remember that many sufferings are born out of too much imagination.
Be calm. Stop planning your days by pleasing the other person. Live a life where you are true to yourself rather than becoming a person you are not comfortable just to impress him or her. Relax. Never manipulate a person to love you back. It is best to feel being loved because the person really is genuinely in love with you and not because of how you speak with your pouty lips, how you wear your shirt with your body contour or how you fix your hair with your killer smile. Love is not forcing the other person to love you because if you do, then it is not love but madness.
Learn to be discerning. It is best not only to define the differences between friendship and intimate relationship. Though intimate relationship begins with friendship, not all friendship leads to an intimate relationship. Never over understand the way he or she looks at you or misinterprets the way he or she touches you.
Stop igniting a desire that you will have a more-than-friends relationship with your best friend who just sees you as a valued friend. It is the greatest punishment you can bring to yourself. It is worse to know that you want someone to be yours till death but you can never have him or her even in life. So respect boundaries and limitations and accept realities that there are things that are not just going happen and even it bites.
Love yourself. Instead of expecting or forcing somebody to love you back, love yourself first. Do not try to convince your heart and soul of something that you know is a total lie. Don’t allow the experience to spoil you. Don’t buy the idea that loving someone who cannot love you back is an infinite curse; instead, believe that it is the beginning of finding true love-a love that is mutual and real.
In time, somebody will also see the beauty in your eyes and the healing nature of your hands. You will no longer get tired of watching him or her love someone else because this time, he or she will love you back the way you do. It is true though that even an unrequited love has its rainbows... Enjoy sliding down on the colors of the rainbow!