THE trails of horrific events barely over, we are overcome with the reality that there will always be haters who hate either because things do not sit well with their beliefs or because it is “fashionable.”
It is so appalling to realize such truth because one usually would never think ill of a fellow human being-- but it is how it is. Sigh. I grapple with the sad truth that there are people who can be so consumed with such negativity that they have become rather mean and worse, inhumane.
Such indifference and hate! The past week has continuously shown the bad side of humans and much as we would like to turn a blind eye on it, the truth just stares you right in the eye, not allowing you to ignore it at all. Sad, depressing fact.
It is difficult to accept especially when one believes that all human beings are inherently good.
Moments like these can drain us of goodness. Sometimes when you are surrounded with such pessimism, you want to retaliate with the same level of antagonism, or probably even worse. After all, we can only take so much, right? To fight back and be heard would really be expected especially when people do not seem to have the courtesy to respect your views when you respect theirs. It can be infuriating!
At some point though, you realize that it is totally useless to argue.
When both parties cannot see eye to eye, you might as well accept the fact that you are deadlocked and no resolution can occur. This can be difficult but that’s how it is. Sometimes you need to walk away. Still, there are instances when we continue to be affected. I guess it is natural for us to seek closure and when that cannot be possible...arghhh.
The thing is, we do not really have to always perceive things like this as “battles lost.” We just have to accept the fact that we cannot always get what we want, the same we cannot win all the time. We cannot always make people agree with us. We cannot always be right in everyone’s eyes. Most of all, we cannot please everybody.
We just need to learn to let go of things like this rather than harbor ill feelings that can be detrimental to us in the end. Stress is a bitch and we do not want it taking over our lives just because we cannot handle people who are not in conformity with our views. There will always be people who are uncompromisingly headstrong about their beliefs and feelings about things. We should learn to accept that.
Whenever we choose to walk away, does it mean that we lose? Nope.
Honestly, I am more inclined to think that it means that one is wiser and accepting that we cannot control everything. We all need to learn to choose our battles lest we end up wasting time and energy on worthless things. Yes, there is quite a feeling of discomfort from choosing to step back than fight for what you believe in, but we need to discern between what is worthy of your time and energy from the nonsensical things.
We do not have to win each argument, really. Sometimes that can be utterly useless, especially when your “opponent” refuses to recognize the merits of your arguments. We all know that people can be blinded by their own beliefs OR they just refuse to admit that they are wrong. How can you possibly win when you are pitted against that? There is no way to convince them and make them agree with you openly. So just let things be. The best way to come out a winner in clashes like these is to take the high road.
The most important thing is that you have made your point, you believe it and that there are other people who see and realize the validity of what you mean. It should be enough that you have made your point known to others, regardless whether they agreed with it or not. If you ever get all worked up about it and just about ready to snap somebody’s head off, think. Are they really worth it?
Take a deep breath. Inhale happy thoughts and exhale the negative and hateful ones. Count from one to ten or fifty or a hundred or more! Just don’t give in to all that “darkness.” Negatrons will always try to ruin your day and they will if you let them. Don’t. Instead kill them with kindness and understanding. Murder them with your infectious smile. We can always disagree without the hate and indifference. We only have one world and we should try to live in it with peaceful coexistence and with respect. Let us work on that. Please.