HOW could failure be of paramount importance toward success? The reality is that people could be aware of themselves between success and failure. The two are in the opposite ends. Failure is the condition or fact of not achieving the desired end or ends. Success is the achievement of something that is planned, desired or attempted. The difference between the two: “Failure is when a person does not reach his qualification; while success is a black-and-white chance to achieve vigorously.”

In my college days, we learned in out ethics class that “no one could determine success if he could not experience failure or vice versa.” Fear occurs regardless of time, situation and condition. So to say that cowardice would dominate once the individual turns fearful and thereby losing focus in life and one gets lost along the way to his goal. An individual can encounter failure once he is not focused, not determined, not diligent, and not confident to do things to achieve. Other individuals escape from stressful moments and experiences by not getting involved in any difficult task. They are just contented with small responsibilities and their routine. Success can begin with failure, believing that it is the benchmark to climb up to a certain pedestal in its apex.

Sometimes, others could not also deviate from the reality of acceptance as time could not be his. Chances will knock on one’s door and the individual could feel things clearly: that he will be the winner, the people’s choice, or will be qualified and be the top person to be the highest and the grand slam winner. When a person would get wrong and could commit mistakes, he could realize that he must be humble, sincere, and diligent enough in any endeavor. The ability to understand people’s weaknesses could be of great help in handling failure before success. This is called “emotional intelligence.” Absolutely, people around could contribute also to both aspects of failure and success. The challenge is to ignore negativity but to move on to positivity.

The fight in overcoming failure can not be done overnight, but years of various experiences, for instance: tenacity vs. fear; frugality vs. complication; justice vs. gratitude; diligence vs. popularity; humility vs. arrogance; and perseverance vs. apathy.

Self-consideration is a factor of individual’s greatness by not listening to other people’s opinion. A person might be having his past experience of not being listened to, not being attended and not being attributed or understood. This could hinder the way to success as it could be a burden to reach the purpose. Therefore, this is a failure. How does a person realize this? “There is no success to like failure?” It is in realization, evaluation or assessment from the previous encounters that a person must be firm in every move, legally-oriented and spiritually engrossed. According to Debasish Mridha, “The greatest obstacle to success is the fear of failure.” Well, stages of challenges must be overcome accordingly once the person starts to face them, one at a time, the tip is not to surrender, but instead to proceed to the next level of challenge. This is to burn the fear of failure through a fire of desire so that the door of success will be opened and that it flows significantly. - ZENAIDA ABERION REMEDIO